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You and Me- What Now?

 

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The components within relationships

You  & Me

 We are so  different yet so much the same.

Relationships are complicated. It can make one confused and torn or even over the moon when one is in it.

There are so many factors involve which could either make it or break it.

The dynamics of a relationship depends on the amount of effort both persons are willing to invest in it on a long term basis.

There are non quantifiable components like love and trust and no universal benchmark which can be adhered to.

Relationships are  ever changing and one has to be discipline be able to maintain it.

Each one of us yearn for Love, a sense of belonging and being appreciated for what we are or what we have done.

A simple word of thanks or a smile can seal or break the bond between two individuals.  It is THAT fragile.

Tiger girl and me
Tiger girl and me

Having gone through many different types of relationships from childhood, I’ve slowly learned how to define what is suitable for me and what is not.

I’ve learned not to place expectations on others but rather have expectations for myself only.  I treat is as a bonus if they do reciprocate what I have offered them.

I’ve slowly and steadily eradicated what I deem as toxic relationships and worked on building relationships which are and continue to be beneficial for me to keep.

It can be quite difficult being focus on staying positive when we live in a very negative world.  However with GOD as my pillar of strength nothing is impossible.

Having a balanced outlook and focusing on what really matters have simplified my way of life.

I’m fighting for what I believe in and will go all out for it. I believe in seizing the day and making the best of the chances that come my way.

 

How about you? 

What now?

 

Post in this series.

1)  You and Me Equals US ( An Introduction)

2) You and Me- Where Do We Begin?

3)You and Me- Love (Part One)

4) You and Me- Love (Part Two)

5) You and Me- Anger and Frustration

6) You and Me- Talking about GOD

7) You and Me- Let’s Talk about Money

8) You and Me- What Now?

You and Me – Talking about GOD

The Cross
The Cross

 

You and Me and GOD.

How is our relationship with this spiritual being?

Are we  having a  similar perspective about this higher power?

The topic of Spiritual and teaching the kids about GOD has been weighing heavily on my mind this year.

R and I have slightly different views about GOD.  Even though both of us are baptised Catholics and are currently sending our children for Sunday school at a Catholic church we do have our doubts and question certain practices that the church has.

There has been lots of variations in ways of worship from one denomination to another. Even with the Christian community there are numerous factions and deviations within the same community.

It is extremely hard to determine  what is actually dictated by GOD and what has been added on by man so that he can control others using religion.

I don’t want the kids to grow up not knowing GOD and how wonderful he is. I want them to be able to experience the richness of having FAITH  in him and acknowledge him personally as their LORD and savior.

What is the proper way to guide the kids and  help them to develop their spiritual side? This is the question that has been  bothering me a lot.

Roman Catholic Priest Saying Mass Picture by Photoxpress.com
Roman Catholic Priest Saying Mass Picture by Photoxpress.com

Even though we attend mass on Sunday the kids and I find it extremely difficult to concentrate during the service. I don’t feel that I really belong to that community and the reason that we still go is that everyone in the family does that.

I guess that I’m still searching for answers and I have yet to find them in this church that I’m currently in.

Following prayer rituals and procedures are  meaningless if one doesn’t see the benefit in doing it. Even though the traditions have been past down through the ages it doesn’t mean that  it is something that has to be adopted wholesale without questions.

Many things have been added and changed through the years in the Catholic faith.  Certain practices that I used to follow has been omitted and even revised.

I’m unsure about  what had brought about the revision and do question the need for such changes to occur. Even though there maybe the need for certain procedures and rituals to  be incorporate in the understanding of FAITH. Who is the one that determines what should be in or out? Is it really Gods way or Man?

I personally find that FAITH  practices should not be rigid and forcefully implemented. It should be something done out of the earnest of our hearts and willingly.

I don’t want the kids to be  Sunday Catholics or feel it is a chore to worship GOD.   I want them to be able to understand who he is and follow his word while developing their faith.

They too should question what is relevant for themselves and listen earnestly to GOD’s voice speaking instead of getting distracted by man’s selfish intentions.

An opened bible. Photo by photoxpress.com
An opened bible. Photo by photoxpress.com

This year I have been spending time considering the direction that I should take in introducing GOD and his WORD to the kids.  I’ve done a some soul searching and joined an online bible study group in bid to get closer to GOD.

R too has been doing his own readings and both of us came to a conclusion that we will be focusing directly on the word – The Bible as it is the purest form of instruction from GOD.

We will be selectively introducing portions of the Bible to the kids based on our personal values and believes.  We want our kids to grow up to be GOD fearing and also have a strong set of values.

How will you be teaching your

children about God?

Post in this series.

1)  You and Me Equals US ( An Introduction)

2) You and Me- Where Do We Begin?

3)You and Me- Love (Part One)

4) You and Me- Love (Part Two)

5) You and Me- Anger and Frustration

6) You and Me- Talking about GOD

7) You and Me- Let’s Talk about Money

8) You and Me- What Now?