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Parenting with Presence

Parenting with Presence Book Cover
Parenting with Presence Book Cover

Parenting with Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids (An Eckhart Tolle Edition) by Susan Stiffelman is one book which I recommend parents to read.

It isn’t easy being a parent however with these tips from Susan it will make your journey as a parent much smoother.

In the 11 chapters of the book Susan brings the readers through how it is growing up while raising kids, communicating with them, cultivating them and helping them coping with stress.

She shows how Happiness is an Inside Job and shares with the readers Tools, Tips and Strategies on coping.

The way that we interact with our kids maybe a reflection of suppressed emotions that we have due to our own childhood experiences. Sometimes these get manifested when our kids unknowingly hit our trigger buttons.

If one able to identify why certain behaviors emerge in you as a child you would be able to address that first before tackling and correcting your child’s behavior.

Through listening and being fully present in the presence of your child you will be able to gain his cooperation. Accepting him as he is will prove that you genuinely care about him and  gain his alliance.

This will prevent the relationship that you have with your child from disintegrating and help build on the existing bond that you have.

“When we cannot shield our children from painful
experiences, the next best thing is to be fully present to them,
helping them through the process by letting them feel their
sadness and disappointment.”

I find this paragraph very insightful. As a parent we wish to shelter our children from unpleasant experiences. However if we do this all the time they will not be given the opportunity to grow and learn to cope with these not so nice situations on their own.

There are questions  at the end of each chapter which the reader can go through and do some self reflection  on how he/she has been doing as a parent in that particular area of focus.

With the question and answer section one gets an insight and suggestions on how to deal with problems in given scenarios.

Susan believes that through our engagement with the kids they get to learn and pick up the values which we wish to instill in them.  By giving them an idea on how they can and should behave  they will grow up to be better people.

My thoughts 

I found this book to be a very insightful read. I especially love the paragraph below.

 Our kids deserve to know that even if we can’t always meet their needs or offer them the validation they long for, they are still wholly lovable and uniquely brilliant just as they are.

What we do as a parent directly affects their ability to grow into adults themselves.  There are many things that we as parents are able to do to guide our children through their childhood.

I agree with a lot that Susan had shared in her book. Being a parent we have to be vigilant at all times about our  demeanor.  Our kids emulate how we behave and are always watching us to see how we perform in different situations.

We need to demonstrate to them what are good manners through our daily living and also be good models for them.   Through our own behaviour they learn how to cope with the stressors of life and deal with the different obstacles which they may face as they are growing up.

Do grab a copy of the book Parenting with Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident, Caring Kids (An Eckhart Tolle Edition) by Susan Stiffelman if you are interested to know more tips from her.

Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book for review purposes. All opinions are 100% mine.  This post has affiliate links.

Yuanshan Flower Expo Park Lantern Festival

 

 

A 3D Horse lantern
A 3D Horse lantern

the 2015 Taipei Lantern Festival at Taipei Expo Park was one of the places that R and I visited  during Valentine’s Day weekend this year.  The last time we saw such lanterns was back in 2012 when we went to the Lukang Lantern Festival  with Tiger girl.

The lanterns on display in Taiwan were certainly very different from the ones that we see around Chinatown during Chinese New Year or  the mid autumn festival. These lanterns are made by students  and are all entries in the best lantern competition.

One of the exhibits on display.
One of the exhibits on display.

Children as young as elementary school students  are encouraged to take part in this competition. As you can see from the picture above this was one of the entries done by  a group of elementary school students with the guidance of their teachers.

An under the sea exhibit
An under the sea exhibit

Each lantern was built based on a theme  as you can see the one above was filled with different sea creatures. Don’t they look cute?

Sheep  lanterns
Sheep lanterns

There were many lanterns  which were created to look like sheep as  2015 is the Year of the sheep.

Another sheep display
Another sheep display
Three sheep with auspicious blessings.
Three sheep with auspicious blessings.
Sheeps besides a model of the iconic Taipei 101
Sheeps besides a model of the iconic Taipei 101
A huge cuddly sheep
A huge cuddly sheep

I like this one the most as it looked like one which I wanted for myself. If only it came in a soft toy version. I certainly would purchase one for myself :)

A Dog Train lantern.
A Dog Train lantern.

Besides sheep there were lanterns based on various cartoon characters like this Dog head train.

Roller coaster lantern
Roller coaster lantern

Some lanterns were built to resembled part of an amusement park like this roller coaster shown here.

A carousal lantern
A carousal lantern
Circus exhibit  lanterns
Circus exhibit lanterns

Even the circus clowns were represented among the different lanterns which were on display in the park.

A pumpkin carriage
A pumpkin carriage

Fairy tales and  Folk tales were the featured themes for some of the lanterns. I saw Cinderella’s carriage on display while walking through the park.

Lanterns based on folk tale.
Lanterns based on folk tale.

I can’t remember off hand which story these characters were depicting but it was certainly nice to see them in traditional costumes.

 

Have you been to a lantern festival before?

 
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