You & Me
We are so different yet so much the same.
Relationships are complicated. It can make one confused and torn or even over the moon when one is in it.
There are so many factors involve which could either make it or break it.
The dynamics of a relationship depends on the amount of effort both persons are willing to invest in it on a long term basis.
There are non quantifiable components like love and trust and no universal benchmark which can be adhered to.
Relationships are ever changing and one has to be discipline be able to maintain it.
Each one of us yearn for Love, a sense of belonging and being appreciated for what we are or what we have done.
A simple word of thanks or a smile can seal or break the bond between two individuals. It is THAT fragile.
Having gone through many different types of relationships from childhood, I’ve slowly learned how to define what is suitable for me and what is not.
I’ve learned not to place expectations on others but rather have expectations for myself only. I treat is as a bonus if they do reciprocate what I have offered them.
I’ve slowly and steadily eradicated what I deem as toxic relationships and worked on building relationships which are and continue to be beneficial for me to keep.
It can be quite difficult being focus on staying positive when we live in a very negative world. However with GOD as my pillar of strength nothing is impossible.
Having a balanced outlook and focusing on what really matters have simplified my way of life.
I’m fighting for what I believe in and will go all out for it. I believe in seizing the day and making the best of the chances that come my way.
How about you?
What now?
Post in this series.
1) You and Me Equals US ( An Introduction)
2) You and Me- Where Do We Begin?
4) You and Me- Love (Part Two)
5) You and Me- Anger and Frustration
6) You and Me- Talking about GOD
No matter how cruel the world is, we need to keep fighting each and every day. I agree that it’s hard to stay positive all the time but with enough motivation, strength and FAITH, all things can be done :). Hope I make sense.
I have come to terms that the love, time and friendship I give to some people may not be equally reciprocated. I do not mind at all. It was how I felt at certain moments and I just need to be true to my feelings.
Don’t give up on the things you LOVE! When things doesn’t go well for me I always pray and think what makes more important in life and that’s my FAMILY.
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Regardless of the nature of the relationship, I agree that both parties should put in the effort to meet the other halfway, to learn to let go of one’s need to be always right.
My husband and I have been apart for over a year now after he decided to teach in Ethiopia and it’s been putting a lot of strain in our relationship. We rarely ever talk anymore (faulty internet communication on his end) and when we do, our conversations are most often about the children and finances. I should take a page from your book and learn not to expect too much from him and instead focus more on what I can change in myself.
you are absolutely right- relationships are complicated! My husband is also my best friend, but we still have our ups and downs… Great article- thanks for sharing!
It is true that relationship dynamics change over time. One reason being that we grow up and priorities change. Doesn’t mean that you still don’t love the person, just that the love has grown differently.
This is a nice post and I could honestly say that relationships are things we go through and a stepping stone for marriage. We have to go through our trials and errors so we can find ourselves and be who we need to be to stand a good marriage.
Relationships are very difficult. There are so many different people and we are all changing all the time. They require a lot of work and attention to keep the good ones!
Love is complicated only if you let it be. I agree that you can only have expectations for yourself. If you place expectations on others, you are setting them up for failure unless you have discussed these expectations in advance.
Relationships are very hard, but in the end we have to fight for the things we love and care about!
Same here. I stay away from negativity/negative people, and always look at the bright side of things. 🙂
Hmm, I just had a relationship blossoming when it turned out he is chronically broke. It doesn’t make sense because he has a decent job. It was a turnoff because this would be so stressful for me in a relationship, I don’t know how I would relax and enjoy time together. Too bad.
This is an awesome post and it is inspirational. It is so important to fight for what you want and not to expect other to get it for you. Thanks for sharing.
Good for you that you’ve decided to eliminate bad relationships. That’s hard for anyone to do. I didn’t grow up in ideal circumstances, and I can’t even tell you how much of a relief it was when I finally walked away. Sometimes you just have to make the leap!