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Writer’s Workshop: Choosing to be Happy

Are you Choosing to be Happy?
Are you Choosing to be Happy?

Happiness is certainly a choice. It is a decision which one has to make on a daily basis.  It is something which has to be actively sort after and not as elusive as it seems.

Even though there are 101 things which are able to rob you of your happiness. It is up to you to decide where you should or should not LET it be robbed.  Your mindset is what drives the weather of the day. The colors which you see and whether you choose to address the issues that you face with a positive or negative attitude.

Here are ten things  that  make me happy. 

 

A recent selfie which I took
A recent selfie which I took

1. Dressing up and looking good so that I’m all ready to face the day.
When you look good you will feel good. Appearances do matter and  it does help to start off the day on a positive note.

Tiger girl posing with her waffle ice-cream
Tiger girl posing with her waffle ice-cream

2. Spending one on one time with the kids.

Here is a picture that I took of Tiger girl when I took her out for some girl time shopping and  a waffle ice-cream treat.

Monkey boy at the airport before leaving for Vietnam
Monkey boy at the airport before leaving for Vietnam

3. Being able to let the kids have their own unique experiences.

Monkey boy traveled to Vietnam with the school last month as they had a  4 Days 4 Nights  learning journey to Ho Chi Min. He got to visit a village school,  harvest tapioca, catch fish and learn more about the Vietnamese culture.

Almond Flour Pancake with Milo Ice-cream and strawberries

Almond Flour Pancake with Milo Ice-cream and strawberries

3. Making breakfast for the kids and  seeing them happily eating what I cooked.

The kids have been asking for pancakes these holidays so I’ve been testing several different pancake recipes to make them a healthier breakfast which is not only nutritious but filling.

A yellow rose
A yellow rose

4. Looking at beautiful flowers. 

I love looking at Roses. There is something magical in their visual appeal which lifts up ones spirit.  The perfectly formed petals and their sweet scent sure brightens up my day.

 

A small collection of the Father's Day gifts
A small collection of the Father’s Day gifts

 

5. Preparing presents for love ones. 

Father’s Day is around the corner and the kids and I are putting aside a top to toe  pampering package for R. Tiger girl and I made the  Hama bead crafts pictured above and  we set down and discusses with her brothers what items would be most useful for their dad.

Doggie boy and me
Doggie boy and me

6. Chilling out with the kids.

Spending time with them playing board games, going on a bicycle ride or enjoying some time at the pool is really fun and relaxing for me. It is certainly a great way to bond with them.

Speaking at a Social Media sharing session at Mary Kay
Speaking at a Social Media sharing session at Mary Kay

 

7. Sharing my Expertise with others.

It brings me great happiness to share what I know with others.  Enriching the life of other women is certainly very fulfilling and I’m really happy to be given the opportunity to teach others how and see how they grow.

Shi Fen Waterfall in Taiwan
Shi Fen Waterfall in Taiwan

8. Travelling and visiting various places of interest.

I really love travelling and seeing the wonders of nature. I’m really happy that I get to travel several times a year with family and go on couple trips with R.

A wefie of R and me
A wefie of R and me

9. Spending time with my #1 Love

It is certainly a joy to be able to spend time with R as a couple. Although he is now posted overseas for work  we still try to carve out time to spend time with each other.  The short trips that we have together certainly is bliss to me.

Shopping for shoes with Tiger girl
Shopping for shoes with Tiger girl

10. Shopping

I’m sure that you will agree that all ladies love to shop. I’m no exception also however nowadays I try not to splurge too much and do calculate carefully if I do have the budget for certain buys that I desire.

 

What makes you happy?

 

Mama’s Losin’ It  Jenny Matlock

Grace for the Imperfect Mom

Grace for the Imperfect Mom
Grace for the Imperfect Mom

Grace for the Imperfect Mom: A 31-Day Invitation to Refreshed Mothering by  Julie Fisk, Kristen Dermey and Kendra Roehl is a book which reflects on the journey of a mom.

Within a span of  31 Days  stories are shared on  how motherhood has been for the author in the areas of  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control and grace.

It is not easy to be a mother. There is a lot of learning through trial and error.  Sometimes we look too much at perfection to learn how to let go. To find joy in the imperfect and to simply be there in the moment to be fully with the kids as we go about spending time together each day.

There are so many ways which we rob ourselves of our happiness and joy. We give in to our doubts and worries and let negative thoughts flood our minds at time. This prevents us from surrendering the problem to GOD.  Sometimes we think of the worst and it  burn our brain cells over it and in the end nothing bad occurs. In fact the terrible scenario which we tried to preempt ourselves  for does not happen.

We try to control too many things on our end and forget that there is a higher power (GOD) which we can turn to give us the peace that  we seek.

My thoughts 

I found this book and excellent read. There are questions asked at the end of each chapter which makes one reflect on  the current way that she is parenting and to be more accepting of her flaws and victories.

As a women we need to love ourselves and value our achievements.  Don’t down play what you have achieved so far and be more accepting towards compliments  which are given.

I totally agree with this statement in this book. We were taught from young to underplay our achievement as it would not make others think that we are proud and arrogant.  This is a very negative way of expression/thinking which should not be promoted. One should always celebrate their achievements and also strive to do their best.

 Most of us  set our standards based on the world’s standard instead of focusing on GOD’s standard. We assume the right way and the best thing to do is what society wants of us instead of really thinking through to see if it is appropriate for us and in line with what GOD wants us to do.

The misalignment  occurs as we are stressing over every little thing in seeking perfection and recognition by others. Giving into earthly desires and wants have caused us to  look at others through tinted lenses.

Through the stories shared in the book the author shows how it is possible to experience  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control and grace. We just have to have faith in GOD and surrender it all to him.

Grab your copy of Grace for the Imperfect Mom: A 31-Day Invitation to Refreshed Mothering today

Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book for review purposes. All opinions are 100% mine.  This post has affiliate links.