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Finding a New ME- Mental Wellness

Since this series started  Nov last year I have yet to start writing a post on it even after the initial teaser post and 16th week check in post 

The past few months had been extremely busy for me and I  haven’t had the time to pen all my thoughts down.  Now that my schedule has more or less settled I can spend more time here on the blog and continue the series which I have put on hold.

Photo of Me

Photo of Me

Since last year I have been tweaking  my exercise and diet routine and experimenting on several different things to increase my energy levels.   Taking care of ones personal   mental  wellness is essential and I’m determined to take very good care of myself.

MENTAL Wellness

 is defined as “a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community.”


It is extremely important  to take care of one’s mental health in order to do well in life. You need a balance to be able to function at an optimal level.

There are many aspects in  mental wellness that one has to take note of.  The  factors that make up wellness are defined in the poster above.

  1. Emotional wellness
    the ability to understand ourselves and cope with the challenges life can bring through acknowledging and share feelings of anger, fear, sadness or stress; hope, love, joy and happiness in a productive manner.
  2. Physical Wellness
    the ability to maintain a healthy quality of life that allows us to get through our daily activities without undue fatigue or physical stress. The ability to recognize that our behaviors have a significant impact on our wellness and adopting healthful habits (routine check ups, a balanced diet, exercise, etc.) while avoiding destructive habits (tobacco, drugs, alcohol, etc.)
  3. Financial Wellness
    the ability to be financially sufficient  with an understanding of spending habits, To be able to budget and plan for financial freedom.
  4. Social wellness
    the ability to relate to and connect with other people in our world through establishing and maintaining positive relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
  5. Mental wellness
    the ability to establish peace and harmony in our lives. The ability to develop congruence between values and actions and to realize a common purpose that binds creation together
  6. Environmental wellness
    the ability to recognize our own responsibility for the quality of the air, the water and the land that surrounds us and how we can make a positive impact on the quality of our environment.
  7. Intellectual wellness
    the ability to open our minds to new ideas and experiences that can be applied to personal decisions, group interaction and community betterment through the  desire to learn new concepts, improve skills and seek challenges in pursuit of lifelong learning .
  8. Spiritual wellness
    the ability to understand GOD and his WORD. To have a purpose of live based on the values and teaching of GOD.

All these eight dimensions have  to be well integrated for one to have a balanced life. It is no mean feat for one to achieve and it does need a lot of effort for one not to neglect one dimension in favor of another.

Is it possible to simultaneous develop all these different dimensions at the same time?

This is a question which I have pondered over for quite a while.  I deliberated on how to achieve it given my current situation and understanding.  There isn’t a model answer to this question but what I do know that it is certainly doable if one takes calculated steps to attain the desired goal.

In the next few posts I will be going through all the above mentioned points in detail starting with Emotional Wellness.

What have you been doing to develop yourself?

  1. Finding a New Me – An Intro
  2. Finding a New Me- Results after 16 weeks
  3. Finding a New Me – Mental Wellness
  4. Finding a New Me- Emotional Wellness
  5. Finding a New Me – Social Wellness
  6. Finding a New Me – Spiritual Wellness


Birthday Thoughts

Last week I turned 39. One year older and certainly very much wiser. It has been a turbulent 2017 with many high and low moments.  I had to learn and unlearn many different lessons and it has certainly been empowering.   It was a quiet  no cake affair this year as spend my special day with my love ones.  Spending time and communicating with them are more important then spending on parties and unhealthy foods.

Since last year I have started to put myself first.  I’ve  been focusing more on what I need and being more assertive.  I’m no longer bending over back for others who disregard my needs.  I’ve taken back control and removed bad relationships.  I’ve a clearer picture of what works and what doesn’t for me. You can say I know exactly where I want to be and how to achieve it.

Doggie Boy and Me

Doggie Boy and Me

The kids are growing up fast and I’m constantly challenging myself to improve myself by getting in touch with the various new educational software and techniques that are in the market and tailor them to their learning abilities.

Each of them have different learning styles and  I had to rely on many external resources to enhancing their learning experiences and make their academic learning journey easier.  You can say it was a hit and miss finding out what worked best for each child.  Besides focusing on their academics I’ve continued with working on their holistic development and teaching them different techniques of dealing with the array of emotions that they have been experiencing.

The main stream education system focuses too much on academics and paper chase and grossly neglects the emotional well being and spiritual growth of a child. This I feel is extremely important and something that I really have to emphasize on with my kids.  I’m seeing more and more emotionally weak kids which are the product of neglect and indifference by parents who seem more interested in chasing the almighty dollar and personal interests then giving the proper guidance to their kids.

There has been a increase in child suicides, drugs and alcohol abuse.  These are evidence of emotional immaturity and also lack of guidance that result in tragedy for those kids who ended up wasted or dead as a result of negligence. I seriously do not wish for my kids to end up as one of these type of statistics and will do everything in my capability  as a single parent to ensure that they grow up balanced.

Tiger girl and me

Tiger girl and me

It’s not all serious and studying without having fun in my household. The kids and I have been going out quite a lot  to play and this has kept everyone relatively stress free.  We have been indulging in more sports  and go swimming weekly now.  I’m still keeping up with my 1-to-1 bonding time with each kid so they get their special time with me.  We too get up to many quirky and fun stuff like playing with the different apps that they have online nowadays.

I’m also cooking much more this year and in more variety as I’m trying out  more healthy dishes and increasing my stable cooks for the weekly menu.  I still introducing more new foods and adjusting their taste and ingredients. I’ve cut off cow’s milk and replaced it with oat milk and am gradually phasing out all processed/ can foods with healthy options. We are also eating less rice and bread and option for more vegetables and fruits instead.  I’ll be studying in detail Keto style of eating and going through the new Keto cookbook that I’ve purchased.

How has it been since your last birthday?