2018 had started out with me being in a very reflective mood. I had been thinking a lot on how I could have a closer walk with GOD and understand the scriptures better. For many years I have been thinking of how I could improve spiritual health as I know that it hasn’t been very good.
I grew up in a Catholic family and have been following their traditions and customs when I was growing up. Now as an adult I start questioning more about the validity of certain traditions and if they were really meant as GOD wanted for us. Many customs that are found in religion are man made and not justified by the WORD as so I question the meaning of having them and just following suit blindly. I couldn’t find answers with the church nor could the community that I was in help me find the answers to the questions that I had. As I searched more traditions and customs that I had been made to observe started to make no sense to me. I didn’t want to blindly follow and go through the motions nor remain as a Sunday catholic anymore. Religion should play a more significant part of my life and be a pillar of the kids lives too.
Since 2016 I decided to start reading the bible and started up doing bible studies by following the schedules which were created by the LOVE GOD GREATLY community. I followed along each time a new bible study was added and have gone through 22 focused studies to date. I started visiting other churches and moved out of the Catholic realm altogether. I explored the Anglican, Methodist and Baptist Church before finding the one which the kids and I are most comfortable in last December. Since changing to this current church the kids and I are looking forward more eagerly to spending time in GOD’s house on Sundays. Having the proper spiritual support system in place is important as with the numerous evils in this world we need to give the kids the best arsenal possible in the event that they need to be involved in a spiritual battle.
The path to GOD is not easy. I have been told that I will face difficulties and be set on challenges which I will have to pass before I’m able to step up a step closer to him. My values and believes will be constantly tested and only if I surrender all and lean on him for support will I be able to sustain myself on this journey here on earth. There will constantly be temptations of this WORLD which try to sway me and I know that I have him with me to deflect the urges for personal gratification and material accumulation which should not be my focus at all. However come all that may I’m still going to place my bet on GOD.
Through the turmoil that I have endured these past few years I now know how important it is to be centered personally in Christ. It can be said that I have had a spiritual awakening and have personally experienced how he has worked wonders in my life and pulled me through one of the most challenging times of my life to date with the numerous life altering decisions that I had to make since 2016.
To know GOD is to immerse yourself completely with him. Daily scripture reading is a habit which I have cultivated and will be modelling to the kids so they too can experience the wonders of the WORD that GOD has given us. Without GOD we will not be able to enjoy the peace and joy that we seek.
To know the WORD is not enough. One must take action and be the living example if they want their kids too grow in their faith. This year I aim to bring prayer actively into my household and to immerse the kids in his WORD.
How do you focus on building up your Spiritual Wellness?
We are now in the tail end of 2018. In exactly 27 more days we will be ringing in the new year. It’s time to welcome the new year again. It is the time for year end reflections and to look back to see how the year has been while at the same time planning and re- setting the goals for the next year.
2017 has been moving at breathtaking speed with non stop roller coaster action for me and the kids. This year my focus was slightly different from before. In January I listed out 20 Ideas to Make this the Best Year Ever. If you are lazy to click over to look at the post I’m posting it here again in this post to let you know my progress down that list.
Make a conscious effort to de-clutter your surroundings. ( I have been doing this on quarterly basis)
Visit new places (I’ve been to a few new cafes/shops in Singapore that only opened this year)
Make new friends ( I’m averaging about a totally new friend every month or so)
Re-connect with old friends/ acquaintances ( I’ve met up with friends I made 14yrs ago from the baby forum which I joined when Monkey boy was born. It had been nearly 10+ years since I met up with some of them and was really good to catch up with the gals)
Take up a course ( I’ve taken up AED + CPR and now a certified First Aider)
Learn a new language ( I’m started learning Korean online and am still going through the modules)
Re-commit to a exercise regime( This year I had my virgin appearance at a gym and have restarted my home gym exercises)
Sleep better ( Still work in progress on this)
Eat clean / healthy ( I’m eating salads on a daily basis and have upped my intake of vegetables and fruits)
Focus on yourself before others ( My health and sanity is of the utmost importance and I now say NO more often then before to things that will not be beneficial towards me)
Learn from the past and DON’T repeat it. ( I’m extremely clear what I want and don’t want now )
Remove the bad apples and keep the good apples in your life (I’m now more careful and more stringent about the people that I want in the kids and my life. I do not want any toxic people to traumatize or spoil their childhood. )
Stay away from unnecessary drama (from other people) ( I refuse to get suck into useless feuds nor indulge in idle gossip. If they aren’t able to deal with their own issues it is their problem don’t throw it onto me as I won’t be picking up any of your trash on your behalf)
Revamp your wardrobe ( I’ve changed many pieces of clothing in my wardrobe this year as they have gotten too loose to wear. I’ve also updated it with more trendy pieces)
Streamline your operations and optimize (The household has been running more smoothly since I’ve done some amendments to everyone’s schedule. Now that the kids are bigger they are able to help out more therefore working as a team lesser time is needed to get the daily chores done)
Spend more time with family and love ones. ( I’m spending max time with the kids after school, bringing them out to have more varied and new experience and also doing more activities 1 on 1)
Hug and Kiss more ( The guys are getting more hugs from me now as they are not really into kisses since they are older)
Create a Vision board ( I have been having one up in my room since last year and slowly everything is falling in place)
Plan regular date nights ( I do both afternoon dates and night date with the kids depending on their schedule)
Read more ( I’m exploring reading more varied genres that I have been previously reading to widen my knowledge)
Me in my CNY Outfit
In Feb I finished my final post in the education series which I started off in 2015 entitled – Bridging the GAP I initially aimed to do a series a year however family commitments grew heavier as the kids grew up therefore the series got sideline till I finally had the chance to pen the last post.
Having read and studied up about health I was more focus on working on achieving fat loss besides weight loss. This year I’ve tried two different programs and got to know more about how my body functions and what is the best way for me to keep up my energy levels and staying healthy. Even though I am still far from my personal weight goal I’m better equipped in my knowledge on health and nutrition . The main reason why it has been an extremely difficult journey to optimal weight/ fitness has to deal with the intense STRESS levels that I have been having this year.
I’ve yet to learn how to reduce my stress level when I get triggered by external circumstances or environment. I guess when the main issue which I am facing this year gets resolved next year it will be a great load off my back.
You can say that I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting this year and getting to know myself better. I now am more certain of what I want and set my boundaries even more clearly then before. My level of tolerance for certain people and situations have greatly plummeted as I no longer put up with Toxic individuals who are only doing things on their own agenda for their own benefit. I have redefined who constitutes as family members to me and you can be certain that blood relations that are tainted are not even considered within the definition.
Me in a floral dress
I’m more determined then ever to achieve my goals and get to where I project myself to be come 2018.