Writer’s Workshop : Challenges as a Parent
Parenting is not always a bed of roses. It’s one of the most complicated ongoing challenge which I am handling. It all started about 7 years 9 months ago when Monkey boy was born.
It has been an uphill battle tackling discipline issues with the kids as they grow. As early as they learn how to scream and cry they have been exerting their “rights” as a mini me. It can be really contradictory dealing with the kids. On the one hand you want them to learn to be independent. On the other hand we would like for them to be obedient and follow instructions.
Being a parent is really like walking along the tight rope at a circus. It’s a balancing act knowing when to let loose or pull in the reins on the kids. Each kids temperament and personality differs drastically from each other. It’s really boils down to experience gathered through the years to know how to deal with problems and challenges that are thrown my way.
Each parent’s experience with their kids are different and there is no right and wrong way of parenting. I really hate it when elderly relatives/perfect strangers try to interfere or try to drop their “pearls of wisdom” especially when you are trying your best in a given situation. I seriously don’t care how they feel about the way I take care of my kids and won’t mince my words when telling them to back off. If I need your opinions or suggestions I will seek them or else just keep your opinions to yourself.
I’ve learn that it’s a real myth that the terrible two’s is the hardest to deal with. It doesn’t get easier as the child grows up. Add a few more children to the equation and it throws new challenges to deal with as the kids tackle sibling rivalry and jealousy issues. It’s already getting exceeding difficult to give equal time and focus on each child to teach him to behave himself . I don’t want to keep on playing referee too.
November 18, 2011 @ 12:27 am
my husband and I have different views on parenting It causes alot of stree in our family You are right about it doesnt get any easier as they age In fact once they hit teens it is alot difficult then when they were two (I have 3 teens and a two year old)
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November 18, 2011 @ 1:18 am
Parenting is definitely a balancing act. I sort of felt and prayed my way through. Not an easy task, but lots of rewards in the end.
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November 18, 2011 @ 1:40 am
True!! No age is easier than the last. Each new stage of life brings joys and challenges.
November 18, 2011 @ 2:51 am
I agree wholeheartedly each parent’s experience is different. I had this one mom that tried so hard to cram BabyWise down my throat that we eventually just “broke up” as friends. I’m good…let me figure it out on my own. I’m not BabyWise, I would tell her, but it just didn’t hit home. I always say this before I give advice “Take everything another parent says to you with a HUGE grain of salt…including me!!”
November 18, 2011 @ 3:21 am
There is no job more challenging than parenting – and no job as important!
I love that photo of your daughter! She looks so sweet!
November 18, 2011 @ 4:35 am
I love how you compare parenting to walking a tightrope! My kids are 10, 8 and 4 and it doesn’t seem to be getting any easier..but at least I am learning.
Found you from Mamakat’s link up!
November 18, 2011 @ 11:16 am
Well said. Parenting is a journey, tough, challenge, joy…… There are times when I laugh and enjoy, there are times when I cry and going to break down…
And yes, each stage is different. It’s not only terrible 2, terrible 3,4,5,6,7……. On the other hand, there are also sweet 2,3,4,5,6,7……. depending on their mood
November 18, 2011 @ 1:35 pm
I remember how I hated getting “advice” when I was a young mom trying to work it out. It’s definitely challenging, but I wouldn’t trade my parenting experiences for anything.
November 18, 2011 @ 10:02 pm
You know, I never experienced the “terrible twos” with any of children. In fact, when they were younger was by far the easiest of phase for me. Once they got up in the teens, the things became more disruptive. At times, it was a battle of wills where no one was the winner. Parenting is a challenge and there are no rule books to help us out along the way.
November 26, 2011 @ 2:41 am
Parenting is definitely the toughest job you’ll ever love.
Your son is absolutely adorable!
Just looking at his picture (and knowing I don’t have to have a battle of wills with him) made me smile!
Thanks for a cute link for Alphabe-Thursday’s letter C.
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Hope your Thanksgiving weekend is lovely.