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The boys playing a game together

The boys playing a game together

Scissors, Paper Stone!! Let’s see who gets to hit the other person’s hand first.

Looking at the boys having a go at this game reminded me of the days back in my childhood where I too love playing this game with my sister.  It was a great way to pass the time while waiting for the bus to arrive when we were out. The boys too love playing this game when we  have to kill time waiting.

The only difference now is that with three of them it is a bit more complicated as it is harder to determine who is the winner and there is a high probability of the boys ganging up against their sister during the game.

Many times I will have to intervene and call for a time out if one of them starts complaining and even crying for being “bullied” during the game.

Tiger girl on the Kiddy Horse ride

Tiger girl on the Kiddy Horse ride

Rushing for kiddy rides when we are out is one of Tiger girl’s favourite activity. I remember the boys too being crazy over such rides when they were her age.

My mum constantly reminds me that I too was equally fascinated over kiddy rides at her age and would go from one to the other if I had the chance to.  My sister and I would drain all the coins she had in her purse in the process of getting our dose of fun.

Nowadays  the price of a kiddy ride has increased ten fold from $0.20 to $1.00/2.00 for certain rides.  I have been extremely reluctant to let them go on such expensive rides  and they would bug me non-stop for it.

To make it more budget friendly to me, the kids  are only allowed to go on rides which can either  accommodate all three of them at the same time or take turns. The other alternative is for them to  go on them without me placing any money in it to activate it.

It’s really interesting to know that the kids too do enjoy the things that I used to love when I was a kid.

 

How was it for you and your
own siblings growing up?

 

 

Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World

Bookcover

Bookcover

Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World by Jill Rigby is a book that  really  spoke to me. Nowadays the youngsters can get really rude and do not show respect for their peers or adults around them. They get away with bad behavior because we allow them to and grow up to become disgruntle adults. It is a vicious cycle which has to be prevented.

The blurring of roles in society and focus on building up self esteem at any cost have brought about the degrading of society.

Jill mentions in her book that ” by  teaching kids about focusing on themselves you are neglecting the fact that they need to know how to gel with society. They live by the motto I want it and want it now!!”  Self esteem is me centered while self respect is “other centered”.

It is more important to nurture  kids who  have the following qualities- Joy, gratitude, obedience, confidence, contentment, perseverance, others-centeredness and well mannered. No one wants a spoiled selfish brat who is really annoying and overbearing.

You need to examine the type of relationship with your child. Is it parent centered, child centered or character centered?

Overindulgence and under indulgence both has it’s cons. Only when you work on building up your child’s character would you be able to give him the skills that he needs to survive in this unforgiving world. You will be teaching them how to set their priorities in the proper order.

In the school of respect there are four stages to the development of a child.

Stage 1:Building trust in tots through routine.

Stage 2: Developing Security in Tykes through recognition.

Stage 3: Helping Tweens learning Obedience through Relationship.

Stage 4: Teaching self-respect through responsibility

You can help as a parent to assist your child in discovering his strengths and weaknesses. This will allow him to understand himself better and make more informed choices about his future path.  Help to promote self motivation by  leading by example. Set boundaries and show the kids how they should behave.

My thoughts

I like how Jill gives examples for each stage of a kid’s development. She gives practical examples on how to deal with your child at different stages of their live. She makes one reflect on their parenting skills and assess if it is really in the best interest of their child in the long run.  Let kids be kids and enjoy their childhood while at the same time teach them well so that they will be able to grow up into confident and self respecting adults.

I certainly recommend this book to all parents who are looking to raise respectful children in a disrespectful world.

You can purchase this book from Amazon

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