weekend reflections

Weekend Reflection: Life of a Mom

The road home

The road home

Every day starts off similar.

Wake up, wake the kids up if they are not yet up.

Get changed and make sure that all the kids get changed.

Make breakfast or get the older ones to make breakfast for the younger siblings.

Tiger girl giving her trademark pose

Tiger girl giving her trademark pose

Tackle  challenge #1 – Tiger girl

If she is in a good mood it can be a breeze to get her ready for school or else it can be a real nightmare if she wakes up on the wrong side of bed that morning.

These few weeks she has been hesitant to go to school in the morning. I blame it on the holidays that we had been having the past month. Every time she sees both her brothers home she knows that it must be a holiday. It really takes quite a while to coax her out of the house and ensure that she goes to school punctually.

Doggie boy doing his homework

Doggie boy doing his homework

Tackle Challenge #2

Doggie boy is in the afternoon session so in the morning I try to maximize the time with him by giving him 1-to-1 tuition and help with his homework during the before school hours.  While he is doing his table work I would be monitoring him while at the same time preparing his lunch or doing the housework.

Time off to smell the flowers

Time off to smell the flowers

After  he goes off to school it’s ME time for me to catch up on my online work/ reading and just time out to chill before Monkey boy returns from school.

Monkey boy doing his homework

Monkey boy doing his homework

Tackling Challenge #3

Afternoons are for tutoring Monkey boy 1-to-1 and overseeing that he completed his school homework. If Monkey boy has CCA on that day  we would have to head off shortly after he returns to ferry him back to school for Badminton.

 

The boys chilling out on the sofa

The boys chilling out on the sofa

Before dinner it is chilling out time for the kids as they get their TV/iPAD time then. It is their down time while dinner if being prepared.

Dinner preparation starts after Tiger girl returns home from school. On certain days Monkey boy helps out in the kitchen as part of his holistic learning experience. At 9 year old he is old enough to learn how to prepare his own meals and help out in dinner preparation at home.

Drinking milk before bed

Drinking milk before bed

After dinner the kids and I have an hour table study/ homework time before story time. On certain nights I do not get through story time with each one of them however I do ensure that we do read at least a short story each night.

How does your day look like?


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Weekend Reflections: Reflecting on Parenting

My new shoes

My new shoes

Parenting is never easy. It gets all so more complicated when you have more then one child and all of them have vast differences in their personality. Are they introvert or extrovert? What methods work best with each child? It is a constant trial and error situation as the kids personalities and preferences are evolving as they grow.  There is no set answer to problems which we may face and it certainly has been extremely stressful at times trying to find a solution to the obstacles that come my way.

I have been reading quite a few parenting books the past month and the two books- Raising Boys by design 

and Quiet Kids gave me quite a lot of insight into how to guide my kids.

HERO

Honor– adhering to truth, values, compassion, and principles beyond self

Enterprise- working at important things, whether they seem big or small

Responsibility– carrying important people and things throughout life.

Originality– being a dreamer, a thinker and an explorer in this world

HERO is what we should be focusing on for our kids. (especially boys)

To be able to understand our kids we should first ask ourselves these questions.

 

1. What are my kids original thoughts and doings?

 

2. Where does he/she shine and what are his/her gifts?

 

3.  Am I stretching him creatively and imaginatively?

 

4. What steps could I take to strengthen his/her imagination and his/her critical thinking skills?

 

6. Am I letting him/her develop naturally or pushing him/her to do what I want him/her  to do instead?

7. Which areas are your kids doing well while which areas are they failing behind in?

8. How are the challenges in their lives stimulating growth in each area?

9. How are we teaching our kids to be HEROS?

 

Teaching boys are different from teaching girls.  Boys need to be constantly challenged to practice original thinking and creative action in honorable,  enterprising and responsible ways. They have to be taught to be HEROES.

They will fail  and falter many times. They will think something is original only to find out that it has been done before. And they will get hurt, emotionally and even physically, as they take risk towards originality. But without those risks and without testing grounds for their gifts, their GOD given heroic design will remain unfulfilled.

How are you teaching your boys to be HEROS?

 

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