Holistic Learning: Dealing with Emotions

Dealing with emotions is something that all of us have to deal with in our lives. As the kids grow up I find that it is important to give them the tools to deal with both positive and negative emotions.

Positive emotions are easy to deal with. It is the negative ones which are more complicated and harder to deal with. If  one is not thought or given the tools to deal with their emotions properly it may result in dire consequences.

I’ve recently read in the papers about a secondary school student who jumped to his death off the top floor of a 40 story flat across his school. A good friend’s brother also recently committed suicide by jumping into the sea. He was apparently suffering from depression and couldn’t get out of the rut that he was in.  I seriously hope that my children do not feel that death is the only solution out of the misery that they may be feeling and  end their lives abruptly.

There are many different  emotions which one may feel with the course of the day and I will be focusing on the above mentioned in the diagram.

– Rejection

– Failure

– Low Self Esteem

– Guilt

Dealing with Rejection

Not being included in a group or getting brushed aside when participating in group activities is not a good feeling.  I constantly remind my kids that it is okay not to be included in every activity. We are participating in any popularity contest or need to constantly hog the limelight.  Sometimes we do things together in a group while on other occasions we may need to work independently.  Focus on your positive qualities and do know that you are being treasured as an individual.

Dealing with Failure

You may not succeed the first time round. The worst thing that can happen to you is not learning from your failure. Keep your chin up and try again. Now you know what went wrong you know what to do to prevent it from happening again.

Dealing with Low Self Esteem

You need to treasure yourself. Affirm your positive qualities and strengthen your self control.  You are as powerful as you can be.

Dealing with Guilt

It is a feeling that as adults we feel more acutely then as a kid. The guilt of taking the extra chocolate bar while you should be strictly focusing on keeping the dieting plan, not doing your chores etc. Sometimes we too need to remind ourselves not to be too harsh on ourselves.  If it your fault your should have a sincere apology to the person(s) involved and validate their feelings. You should  forgive yourself too.


 How do you teach your child to deal with their emotions?





Post in this series

1. Holistic Learning  an Introduction

2. Becoming a Budgeting Accountant- Getting Started.

3. Updates on Monkey boy being a Budgeting Accountant.

4. Holistic Learning with Doggie Boy

5. Holistic Learning- Dealing with Emotions

6. Holistic Learning- Understanding your Creative Pattern




Supermom 101- Starting Up and Setting the Pace

I'm a supermom

In the last installment of Supermom 101 I wrote about my reflection on being a  busy mum and how I used various apps to help schedule in all the various appointment and reminders which I need. This week I’ll be sharing with you a typical day at our house and how I tie in blogging and personal time into my busy schedule.

My three kids

Taking care of the three of them is no easy task.  All of them are hyper bunnies and once they start playing together they can certainly get pretty wild and sometimes play can get rather out of hand. It takes a firm hand to make sure that the kids toe the line and complete their daily routines/ tasks.

Here is the lists of task that I have to do daily.

Morning Tasks

#1– wake up, check my e-mails and set the list to do online be it new blog posts, reviews, hops or social media channels which I need to make my “rounds” in.( This is my me time too  before everyone wakes up)

#2- Breakfast is set and the kids are woken up. They are supervised in getting dressed, having their breakfast and  being ready for school.

#3– put the clothes to wash and take down the clothes that are already dry from the laundry area. Fold and keep the clean clothes away. Monkey boy and Tiger girl will help in keeping the clothes.

#4– prepare lunch for Monkey boy and tutor him/ check his homework before he leaves for school.

Monkey boy is in P2 this year so my focus is on building up his comprehension and composition skills for both English and Mandarin. He also learns the piano so I monitor and guide him in his preparation for the Grade 2 exam which he is taking this year.

#5– Car run sending Doggie boy to school and HB to work, grocery shopping.

Afternoon Tasks

#6- Complete blogging tasks, readings and other online work.

#7- Teach  Tiger Girl and finish the rest of the household chores ( I get my me time if and when she naps in the afternoon)

Tiger girl is currently 21 months old and we are going through the letters of the alphabets, flashcards of  in both English and Mandarin  of common household objects. She is speaking in 3 -4 word sentences and I’m slowly building up her vocabulary.

#8- Prepare and cook dinner before fetching Doggie boy and R home.
#9- Meet up with R or friends for lunch/dates on scheduled dates.

Evening Tasks

#10-Teaching Doggie boy and supervising Monkey boy doing his homework for the day.

Doggie boy is in K2 this year so my emphasis with him is to get him ready for P1 next year. I’m brushing up on his vocabulary and comprehension skills in both English and Mandarin.

#11- Bedtime story reading with all the kids  and  games if there is the time.

#12- Me Time/Couple Time


How does your daily routine look like?

In the next installment I will talk about how to maintain focus and rhythm as a busy mom.



Posts on this series

Supermom 101- My Personal Reflections

– Supermom 101- Starting up and Setting the Pace

Supermom 101- How to Maintain Focus and Rhythm