Writer’s Workshop: Why Not Mummy?
Tiger girl looking puzzled
Being a mom of a two year old girl can be very trying at times. She can be as different as night and day in a split second. Any single thing which she feels slighted about will send her screaming with tears. It’s really difficult to pinpoint what is the trigger and what causes the sudden outburst.
Some days she can wake up bright and cheery while on other days it seems that everything that would go wrong does go wrong. It can be extremely frustrating and stressful dealing with Tiger girl on such a morning. Every single thing which you do to try to get her to be ready for school backfires. Nothing that you do can please and satisfy her and only throws her further off the edge.
Tears stream down her cheeks and her nose starts to fill up with sniffles. It seems to her like the whole world is crumbling around her and she is collapsing due to the heavy weight.
The situation can be really trying and I am often at a lost on how to calm her down and make her think rationally. It is hard to reason with a two year old who is still at the ” It’s Mine!!” and ” No!! I don’t want” stage. The terrible twos are some would say where they are trying to exert their own authority and at the same time learn about the boundaries that have been set around them.
It is certainly a trying situation and I’m hanging on by a thin thread. It doesn’t get any easier the third time around. Girls are more whiny then boys and certainly harder to coax. The normal tricks of switching on the television for her to watch, having popcorn for breakfast or even getting to wear outing clothes instead of her school uniform to Nursery school all failed badly. I’m still thinking of new methods and ways to deal with this.
This morning I had to let her slowly cool down on her own till she was ready to talk and reason. 30 minutes. That is the time that was needed for Tiger child to revert back to her normal self. I’m lucky that we did have to rush off to school or we would certainly be very late!!
Do your kids have such outbursts?
How do you deal with them?
April 25, 2013 @ 2:30 pm
I feel your pain. The “Why”s and the “Why not”s are common for my two boys too (so I dont think it is just a gal thing). Haha! All I can say is… chocolate cake date soon! 🙂
April 25, 2013 @ 2:31 pm
Hi, I totally understand how you are dealing with your 2 yr old. My girl used to be 2 yrs old and well, thankfully, it was quite a smooth stage knowing that there is a term to describe 2 yrs old- terrible two! However, my son who is currently 2 yrs old can throw his tantrums badly as well. However due to 2nd child syndrome, he tend to be more “soft” and use crying as a weapon against us. Lately, he has resorted to shouting and sometimes, threatening the siblings or even adults that he will tell his dad or mum that he was not happy. He knows my soft side so he often comes to me for anything except the dad. When he throw tantrum, I simply walk away and let the dad handle him. Usually, he becomes better…
April 25, 2013 @ 2:44 pm
My little tiger also likes to burst out whenever & whenever…especially at meal times *faint*. If happens at home, I will deal with him with cane, he will immediately knows that he will be punish if he still continues his bad behaviour. If in the public, I will use soft approach first then if really get out of hand, i will bring him to the toilet…er…for one to one “counselling” session. I’m quite strict with my kids & unable to tolerate if they misbehave in public.
April 25, 2013 @ 8:19 pm
Oh yes, parenting is a challenge, yet so fulfilling. I see my brother in law dealing with his twin daughters of this age and wow, it’s not easy! Yet, I don’t think he’ll trade it for the world. Thanks for sharing!
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April 25, 2013 @ 8:56 pm
I don’t have kids of my own, but I have seen this with others’ kids. Sometimes it could be the remnants of a bad dream they don’t even realize, sometimes it could have been the energies of other kids they were playing with at school or it could have been the energies of others’ around them at the grocery store. And sometimes it’s just them growing. 🙂
April 25, 2013 @ 9:25 pm
I only had to go through this once as I had one daughter and I can’t recollect how I was able to get through this stage. Sorry I couldn’t be more help to your plight.
Very lovely daughter though – cute as a pickle! 🙂
April 25, 2013 @ 10:40 pm
This has to be hard for you, Dominique. ~~ This where the old, “This hurts me worse than it hurts you” aspect comes in. I am glad for your daughter’s sake that you have patience with her. This is the time when there is a great temptation for the parent to become abusive.
Joking with my kids, I have told everyone of them (except the one of five that didn’t have children), “I don’t want to ever see you dragging a crying grandkid of mine through the mall. Stop and discuss things a little and then go and have an ice cream desert with them.” ~~ It seems to have worked, Jim
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April 26, 2013 @ 2:56 am
ahhh, the twos. They can indeed be terrible!:)
April 26, 2013 @ 9:08 am
My two boys didn’t have terrible 2 but theirs were delayed to terrible 5, terrible 6. Yes I am dealing with theterrible 5. Of late, I learned and used an approach where I just hug him tight when he throws tantrum and remained silent. It took time for him to calm down but it works for now.
((HUG)) to you Dominique.
April 26, 2013 @ 11:41 am
I was there, not too long ago, I used to be a super nagger about my girl. Now she is five and the bestest age ever! You will love it. I have two older boys too. You’re right, girls are more whinny, but I tried to nip it in the bud with miss T as soon as she starts. I wish she stay at this age for a long time, but I know it is not possible.
April 26, 2013 @ 9:19 pm
sometimes I feel lucky that I don’t have to deal with children, because I don’t know if I would have the patience. Then at other times, I miss the comradery and closness you have with family. I hope everything goes well. {:-Deb
April 27, 2013 @ 12:12 am
It’s been a long time since my kids are all grown, but I do remember those trying tantrums…
April 27, 2013 @ 2:03 am
Olivia will be turning 2 in June and at the moment she is a complete happy little girl. Very rare she gets little tantrums. I only pick her up, kiss and cuddle her tight with a ssshhh then she says “Don’t worry Livi, it’s okay” to herself 🙂 I don’t know if she’ll change though. But, look at you…you are dealing it with so much patience which is the best thing you could do. Tiger girl is such a cutie little darl 🙂
Hugs,
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May 3, 2013 @ 2:04 pm
It has been quite some time since my now grown children Went through this stage…
I do remember it being rather tiring at times and I Wish I had some secret tip to help but unfortunately I don”t…
Just try to remember to take a little time for yourself to Wind down after you have them in bed…
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