Renew your WOWS by Jeffery H. Sumber

Renew your Wows book cover

Renew your Wows book cover

Renew Your Wows: Seven Powerful Tools to Ignite the Spark and Transform Your Relationship by Jeffrey H. Sumber was first released  2 months ago.

In his book Jeffery shares with the readers the following

The Seven Tools to Renew Your Wows

1. Uncovering the Self
2. Where Do I Live? Paradigm GPS
3. Respond Instead of React
4. Reject Projection and Assert Responsibility
5. The Check-In Dialogue
6. Processing the Rules of Engagement
7. Separate Facts from Feelings

In the book he explains the importance of the tools and how and by working on these tools you be able to improve your marriage. Once you know what you are, you want in the relationship and work on communicating how you feel. It will only get better.

In order to know what we want and where we want to be in our relationship we need to understand ourselves first.  Going through the 7 tools one by one the author leads one on a self discovery journey into deeper understanding of self.

In a successful relationship, you have learned how to express your needs and desire to meet your partners’ needs freely without expectation, until it becomes a seamless expression of love,
respect and appreciation.

Success is existing together in a paradigm that supports healthy  attachment and safe connection all in
the present moment

This quotation from Jeffery sums up the essence of a successful relationship .  Staying in love requires hard work. Both parties are constantly evolving and there may be friction and conflicts along the way.

My thoughts

The very least you can do in your life is to figure
out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live
inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but
live right in it, under its roof.
—Barbara Kingsolver

Working on my marriage is one of my focus for 2015.  A lot of conflict and dissent have been causing tears at the fabric of my marriage.

Differences in  parenting style,  upbringing and cultures have resulted in lots of friction and unhappiness.    This is certainly something which I want to eliminate.

Reading Jeffery’s book have made me reflect more on what I am, what I want and how my own marriage has evolved over time.

Many a times there are so many things which the other partner assumes or expects without clearly conveying the notion to the other person.

Unless there are very clear lines of communication there is a high chance of unhappiness within the relationship. Sometimes we do not wish to hurt the other person with what we say when we voice out our opinions/ carry out certain actions but the opposite happens.

This book is different from the other books on Marriage that I have read as it does give very practical examples and tips which are really doable.

If you wish to know more about the seven tools do pick up a copy of the book.

Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book for review purposes. All opinions are 100% mine.  This post has affiliate links.