Writer’s Workshop: Darling Daddy

R and the kids

Being a dad has been one of R’s roles since 9 years ago.  It has been a learning journey for him being a father. He has been growing and learning more about fatherhood and has become more experienced through the years. Being steadily promoted from a father of one to now a father of three he has been actively engaging with the caring of the kids.

He handles the cleaning/ bathing of the kids since they were newborns and still does bath and feed Tiger girl when I’m engaged with her older brothers.  I guess that practice makes perfect and with experience comes ease in handling of the kids physical needs.

He is the more relax parent compared to me. Maybe it’s because he gets more of the fun jobs of playing with the kids and bringing them out for fun instead on focusing on academics and discipline. Even though he and me don’t see eye to eye on certain issues regarding the kids we both agree that we need to co-ordinate our efforts in educating them.

I have learned from him not to be so uptight with the boys when they really drive me up the wall.He is really patient with the kids and has a really high tolerance to all their monkey antics. He will reason out with them before delivering any punishments if it is deemed necessary.

Tolerance is a virtue which I have cultivate throughout the years under his guidance. Although at times I still do snap at the kids when they drive me mad but it hasn’t been as often as before.

I guess that we do learn a lot from our spouse about how to improve on our parenting skills.

What have you learned from your spouse about parenting?

What’s the best tip you have had so far?


Jenny MatlockMama’s Losin’ It