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Preparing for Primary One – A look through The Eyes of a Mom

Primary 1 series 2012

In this installment of the Preparing for Primary One series we are  interviewing having Suhanya , a mom  of a boy who is currently in Primary One.

Here are the questions which I posed to her and her answers.

1. How did you decide on which school to send your child?

( Distance, Alumni, School History)

Personally, I wanted him to go to one of the good neighbourhood schools with my priority to the school which would develop him as a person as well give importance to academics as he has been quite good at it from the beggining. Over all I wanted him to go a school, nearer to home, one of the better ones in the neighbourhood where there will be well rounded development for him.

I had 3 schools to choose, that are within 1 km for me, as we live in a school Zone and all three of them being relatively popular in the area. I did know about School A a lot, visited School B and School C.

School A – rejected, for being too academic oriented and ONLY avademic oriented

School B – rejected, as something told me that it’s not the right setting for him

School C – Had what I wanted, liked it and I knew this was what I wanted for him…

As a PR when the rules did allow PR kind of an equal opportunity, I was lucky enough to get into the school of my choice and he just loves his school and me too…

2. What was the difference for your child in P1 as compared to when he was in K2?

(What physical/ mental difference did you notice)

I think we generally tend to under estimate this generation kids… I was worried about long hours, big campus, moving around inside the school and all sorts of stuff a mother would worry about…

But from K2 to P1, what are the significant changes I noticed?

1. More indpendent and confident than in K2.

2. Able to handle everything by himself including manging timetable, assembly times, tets, preparation, routine with other things out of school, different protocols followed in the school etc

3. Able to manage money

4. Able to manage the long hours in P1 at ease without an issue..

Overall, a definite change that made me feel “Oh boy, my little boy has grown up and he is growing up…”

3. How was your feelings during the 1st day of school ? How did you child feel?

Very disappointing because he missed the whole of first week ‘cos of suspected HFMD. So when he started a week later, I was worried, anxious and nervous.. But to my surprise Yuvan was the one who told me ” Don’t worry ma, I think I can manage…”.

The first day of that week his form teacher picked him up from the General Office and next day Yuvan insisted he being dropped at the gate. I was very emotional actually (but offcourse didn’t show it to him..) and his teacher called me later to inform that she is surprised that Yuvan is so independent and manging well and that there isn’t any need for me to worry… ( A sense of relief for me!)

Well… Moms are more nervous, anxious and worried than the kids are on the first day of P1 and I think most of the kids adapt to changes more easily than expected.

4. How do you feel now after your child has been in P1 for the past 9 months?

Happy!!! He has definitely grown into a more responsible, independent person. He is more world wise than before and he just loves his school and I think now the challenge is to sustain it academically and personally.

5. Anything you would do different back then to prepare your child?

No as I was quite aware of the requirements and I think I did the basic preparations quite strong and good!! Will be doing the same this year too for his P2.

6. How has your child matured since the start of P1?

My little boy never fails to amaze me with questions during every little conversation we have had among us since the start and the depth of every question and answer really are the examples to how this little fellow is growing up…

Examples : “What is economy?”

“Mom, You are right, I should know how to choose friends”

“I think I have room for improvement”

“What is an exchange rate?”

Author’s Bio:  I am a mom of one handsome boy, kind of an impulsive mom when some one asks anything about studies, kids the free advice would flow. I have learnt my lessons through my parenting journey and become more responsible in the course… I blog at http://suheezbrainwaves.wordpress.com

 

In the next installment we will be having a guest post from an ex-school teacher Sarah.

Post in this series

  1. Preparing for Primary One (The 2nd time around)
  2. Preparing for Primary One- Doggie Boy Style (Mental Preparations)
  3. Preparing for Primary One- Doggie Boy Style ( Physical Preparations)
  4. Preparing for Primary One – Looking back at Primary One [ Guest Post]
  5. Preparing for Primary One- Preparing yourself Mentally as a Parent
  6. Preparing for Primary One- A look through The Eyes of a Mom [Guest Post]
  7. Preparing for Primary One- From Teacher Sarah’s Desk [Guest Post]
  8. Preparing for Primary One-Questions and Answer Round Up

 

 

Preparing for Primary One – Preparing yourself mentally as a parent

Primary 1 series 2012

 

Doggie boy and me

 

Having a child going to Primary One the 2nd time around my feelings this time is different from the time I felt when Monkey boy was entering Primary One.  This time being experienced I feel that I am more relaxed and not as anxious as before.  I do know the regime and what will be expected of Doggie boy once he starts his new school year in January.  Even though you try your best to fully prepare your child you too need to prepare yourself too as a parent   We will never know  if  our child will be able/ be unable to cope until he enters school proper.

Instead of stressing about the unknown there are some ways which you as a parent can prepare yourself mentally for this major milestone in your child’s life.

Here are four tips for all parents.

  1. Learn to let go slowly.
    They are now of age to go to a “Big Boy” school and it’s time to let them exert their own independence.  You cannot  serve them hand and foot as they are old enough.  They should be able to go to the toilet on their own and feed themselves.Let them try and do things by themselves and remind yourself that you need to  have a  “hands off” attitude in certain areas.
  2. Implement changes one at a time
    Going to Primary One need not be a traumatic experience for the parent. Do not make changes all at one as it can be really overwhelming. Do give allowances for impending changes in your schedule and  if necessary do a dry run during the school holidays before term starts.For me Doggie boy will be in the afternoon session next year so I do not really have to wake him up earlier then usual but he will have a different study schedule come 2013. There will be study sessions before and after school for him and he will be on the schedule which Monkey boy is currently on.  I’m slowly getting him accustomed to the new schedule by putting him on the schedule come December.
  3. Test things out
    Give yourself  time to get use to the adjustments which you may need to do with your own schedule. Sometimes your original schedule or plan may not work out and you will need to iron out the kinks in it to ensure that your plan flows smoothly come the new school year.
  4. Remind yourself  that it’s important for you to be calm and focusedKids are ultra sensitive and do feed off both our positive and negative vibes.  It is important for them to know that you have confidence in them and they will be able to take care of themselves in school.  With them knowing that you believe in them and are confident that they will do well they too will believe in their abilities and perform as expected.

Do you have any other tips to add in to this list?

In the next installment we will be having another guest post by another mum ~ Suhanya , a mom  of a boy who is currently in Primary One.

Post in this series

  1. Preparing for Primary One (The 2nd time around)
  2. Preparing for Primary One- Doggie Boy Style (Mental Preparations)
  3. Preparing for Primary One- Doggie Boy Style ( Physical Preparations)
  4. Preparing for Primary One – Looking back at Primary One [ Guest Post]