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Preparing for Primary One – Preparing yourself mentally as a parent

Primary 1 series 2012

 

Doggie boy and me

 

Having a child going to Primary One the 2nd time around my feelings this time is different from the time I felt when Monkey boy was entering Primary One.  This time being experienced I feel that I am more relaxed and not as anxious as before.  I do know the regime and what will be expected of Doggie boy once he starts his new school year in January.  Even though you try your best to fully prepare your child you too need to prepare yourself too as a parent   We will never know  if  our child will be able/ be unable to cope until he enters school proper.

Instead of stressing about the unknown there are some ways which you as a parent can prepare yourself mentally for this major milestone in your child’s life.

Here are four tips for all parents.

  1. Learn to let go slowly.
    They are now of age to go to a “Big Boy” school and it’s time to let them exert their own independence.  You cannot  serve them hand and foot as they are old enough.  They should be able to go to the toilet on their own and feed themselves.Let them try and do things by themselves and remind yourself that you need to  have a  “hands off” attitude in certain areas.
  2. Implement changes one at a time
    Going to Primary One need not be a traumatic experience for the parent. Do not make changes all at one as it can be really overwhelming. Do give allowances for impending changes in your schedule and  if necessary do a dry run during the school holidays before term starts.For me Doggie boy will be in the afternoon session next year so I do not really have to wake him up earlier then usual but he will have a different study schedule come 2013. There will be study sessions before and after school for him and he will be on the schedule which Monkey boy is currently on.  I’m slowly getting him accustomed to the new schedule by putting him on the schedule come December.
  3. Test things out
    Give yourself  time to get use to the adjustments which you may need to do with your own schedule. Sometimes your original schedule or plan may not work out and you will need to iron out the kinks in it to ensure that your plan flows smoothly come the new school year.
  4. Remind yourself  that it’s important for you to be calm and focusedKids are ultra sensitive and do feed off both our positive and negative vibes.  It is important for them to know that you have confidence in them and they will be able to take care of themselves in school.  With them knowing that you believe in them and are confident that they will do well they too will believe in their abilities and perform as expected.

Do you have any other tips to add in to this list?

In the next installment we will be having another guest post by another mum ~ Suhanya , a mom  of a boy who is currently in Primary One.

Post in this series

  1. Preparing for Primary One (The 2nd time around)
  2. Preparing for Primary One- Doggie Boy Style (Mental Preparations)
  3. Preparing for Primary One- Doggie Boy Style ( Physical Preparations)
  4. Preparing for Primary One – Looking back at Primary One [ Guest Post]

Preparing for Primary One- [Guest Post] Looking Back at Primary One

Primary 1 series 2012

Looking Back at Primary One

2012 – The year I felt parenthood truly begun!

This is the year my first born entered primary school. I reached a paradigm shift in how I bring up a child.

1. TIME issues

My time is no longer mine to plan. It is no longer “Let’s Go!” Now it’s “What did Mrs Tan say?” You see, Mrs Tan is Nicole’s P1 form teacher. She represents the school.

So other than making my plans fit the School Calendar, I have to consider the Class Calendar (English Spelling every Tuesday, Chinese Spelling every Thursday, and some schools have Math Spelling too!) Every other night is now either going through English Spelling or Chinese Spelling. There is no letting up. The only break I got, we got was the school holidays!

I learnt how important it was to give her a time table after school. And I’ve memorised it too! So that I know what to ask when I call home, I know what to expect when I get home. Lesson Learnt: The time table was too generic. I’ve to add a little more details!

 

2. MONEY Matters

One big lesson Nicole learnt was to Honour God is everything she does. It started off with her allowances. We give her $1.20 daily. (I tried $1 and it wasn’t enough!) From Day 1, she will set aside 10 cents to God as her tithe, and bring $1.10 to school. When she’s back home, the savings would be kept be put aside. This culminates till the end of the week, and on Sunday, she’ll have her offering to drop in church, and savings to put in the piggy bank.

This is what we used:

 

3. GOD Factor

And since she started school, God became more real to her. Her prayers are said with much more sincerity especially since she really needs help with those tests and spellings!

Seriously, when she’s in P1, she’s very much on her own. We are now only accessible after school or when she can lay hands on a phone to call us. She learnt consequences (when you forget to bring a Math book), she learnt handling friendships (when Jane doesn’t want to be a friend any longer & Mary stopped talking to her on that same day), and she learnt that she’s not the centre of the universe in that huge primary school she’s in. So reliance on God became a big thing! She’s alone. It’s just she and God.

 

Looking back now, Nicole grew up quite a bit this year. (She shrunk in size though… skinnier for some strange reason) I grew quite a bit as a parent too. I realised everything I taught Nicole prior 2012 was a platform for her in P1. And everything that I do now when she’s in primary school becomes building blocks to her habits/values/perspective towards school, and shape her ‘worldview’. I’m beginning to see now. It really starts at Primary One.

 

Jiahui is a brand new mummy of 3, who is learning something new every other day as she works full time. With each experience with her kids, it was clear that she can’t keep mum about the parenting journey. She started the blog Mum’s the Word as living proof that life is different for each child.