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Writer’s Workshop: Questioning the Magic of Disney

Monkey Boy and the Princesses

The first time I’ve step into Disneyland was back in 2008 when we brought the boys to Hong Kong Disneyland. The theme park was newly opened and  the kids were excited to have a chance to go to Disneyland and stay at the Disney hotel.

Growing up with Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck and the gang I have been really excited as a kid to step into the magical world which they call Disneyland.  I have always enjoyed watching Disney cartoons and movies on the television and love the fairy tales which they have created.

The boys are not really that into Disney and couldn’t name or identify most of the characters on display when we were there. They were thrilled to go on the rides and see the various decorations. We were lucky that we did not need to queue for a long time to get on the rides and the boys were able to go on all rides which they wanted.

They couldn’t really care about taking photographs with the dolled up characters unless I insisted on taking photographs so that we will be able to remember our time in Disneyland.

The magic of Disney also fell flat for me after entering through their gates.  It was no long as captivating to me as and adult then it was to me as a child to visit Disneyland. The place felt so commercialized to me and a real good marketing strategy which has lasted for more then 50 years. The person who came up with the idea of Disneyland and open theme parks based on it all over the world was a real genius. It has been a real good money making idea with the franchising and patents.

I guess that Disney is a bit “dated” for me and my kids and we are more into Japanese anime/ cartoons then western characters.

Hello kitty still entices me and I’ll definitely visit the Hello Kitty Kingdom when we go to Japan. Even the boys love this cute cat with no mouth.

Are your kids still captured by the Magic of Disney?

Which characters are they into ? ( Disney or non Disney)

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Guest Post: Do you have each other’s backs?

I recently watched an episode of Up All Night, where Christina Applegate’s character Reagan goes on a mean-spree through the airport in her stress of traveling with an infant, all the while her husband Chris, played by Will Arnett, follows behind her apologizing for her and trying to play it cool.

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At one point, Reagan just looks at her husband Chris, and asks him,  “Why can’t you just have my back?” It is a really great episode, and
any parent who has travelled with small children will find it hilariously accurate and entertaining.

So, the other morning I woke up and went about my normal morning routine: make coffee, get breakfast going, pack a lunch, attempt to
keep my daughter from getting into everything at the same time.  My husband had just come out of our bedroom, dressed quite
handsomely for work, and my daughter was waving around the Swiffer sweeper like a dangerous baton.

As I’m busy trying to get his lunch together, behind me I hear a frustrated snap at my daughter and instantly, without much hesitation,
mama bear rises up in me.  “Don’t yell at her.  What did she do?”  I put my husband on the defensive, my daughter is upset.
She had smacked his clean pants with the dirty sweeper.
The morning ends with this statement, “Why can’t you just let me be a parent, too?”

Ouch.  As the hubs left for work, without our usual loving good-bye, I felt the sting of truth.  I was instantly reminded of
the episode I had just watched.  Why couldn’t I have just had my husband’s back?

My husband is an awesome father, one who loves his daughter so incredibly much.  And it is clear in everything he does that this
is the case.  I have no reason to deny him my support when he does what he is supposed to do as a parent: discipline, correct, etc.
If I want to him to flourish in his role as a father, I have to give him my backing and support.

My encouragement to you today is: to stand by each other; have each other’s backs.  As parents, we have such a difficult job, one
that has its own unique challenges for both mothers and fathers.
We need each other to make it work well.  It doesn’t stop at parenting either.  It is important in maintaining a strong marriage as well.

When you don’t feel supported in something that is important to you, especially by the person who is closest to you, it can be a huge discouragement.

I don’t know what I’d do if my husband didn’t support my passion to write, or my desire to lose weight.  It is his constant support
and affirmation that spurs me on and gives me that extra “push” to not give up when things are tough.

As I reflect on that morning, I realize that I need to show my husband that I do have his back, and that I support him as a father.
Lesson learned.

How do you show your spouse that you have their back?

 In what ways does your spouse show you?

Courtney is a wife, mother and writer.  She loves to encourage others in marriage and motherhood.  To connect more with her,
visit her blog: Baxtron{Life}.