I have been reading this book – Kids are from Jupiter by Mark chamberlain and have picked up many good tips from his book
In summary it talks about the 5 greatest parental mistakes
- Giving into guilt by taking upon the mistakes of the children as your own. It is okay if children make mistakes. It is only bad if they do not learn from it. It is not possible for your child not to make mistakes or be infallible as you personally are not.
- Striving for Perfectionism. Stop!! Don’t do that you are not bringing up robots. If all your kids problems/battles are being solved by you catering to their every need they will not be able to adapt to the real world and the how to be independent and face their own battles. They will not know/learn the techniques/skills needed for survival.
- Being Overindulgent. Do not be afraid to deprive your kids. Sometimes they have too much of a good thing to learn how to appreciate it properly.
- Failing to admit that they as parents foul up sometimes. Do admit your mistakes to you child if you commit any. It will only help to strengthen your relationship . Your child will give you plenty of changes to apologize, ask for forgiveness and try to do better.
Problems and errors are inevitable; how we handle them is up to us. We can be critical of ourselves or our children, or we can see our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow.
- Shutting off the child. Irregardless of what tactic you try in an attempt to guide your child, make sure that you also keep the lines of communication open, be as perceptive as you can, and then trust your intuition about what’s best for your son or daughter.
Joan Marie Whelan, a lady with a special gift, has shared her views and life experiences in her latest book Soul Discovery.
I had been fortunate to be able to review the book before it hits the stands. It was really a soul searching book for me. I gathered a lot of inside to the importance of focusing on the positive energies instead of the negatives at it will ruin your life. The 121pages was worth the read as the nine chapters inside covered in details how you can connect with your inner self and uncover the gifts that you have already received.
“Do not judge or criticize yourself or others.
This is one of the golden rules. Yet, so many of us do this on a daily basis.
One of the best gifts you have to give another in life is the gift of love, joy and acceptance. When someone is yelling at you, they are really yelling at themselves.
Frequently when someone is hurting, they misplace their feelings and hurt another.
Knowing this fact, does not necessarily make it easier;
however, if you can understand and be very clear who you
are and what it is you wish to experience, others will have
no other option but to treat you in that way.”
I find this quotation from her book most enduring. It tells you straight to the point the root cause of one’s misery. You self-inflict torture /pain on yourself when you judge others as it eats into you and stains your soul. By passing your judgement on others you are also being judged, and most of the time, very harshly by others in return. Many times it is our mindset which is hampering our personal growth and development. We are so taken in by society and it’s way of reasoning that we fail to see that society’s way is not God’s way and how we should be living our lives.
Do purchase a copy of her book and you will be enlightened.