John Ryder is launching his new book on 16th Sept . His book Positive Directions-Shifting Polarities to Escape Stress and increase Happiness. I feel that this book is exactly what I needed.It teaches me how to identify what is causing the negative thinking in my life and how to reverse it with positive thinking to help me reduce my stress and increase my happiness.
In his book he talks about the 9 keys or life skills and how to use them efficiently to release ourselves from the locks(negativity) that we have unwittingly created for ourselves
Attention (concentration & shifting)
Perception (awareness & knowledge)
Higher Self (objectivity & direction)
Passion (energy & motivation)
Will Power (stamina & patience)
Judgment (rational & intuitive thinking)
Replacing patterns (positive programming)
Transformation (negative into positive)
Achieving Peak Potential (talents & goals)
The 328 page book will give you a better inside into the way your mind works and how to get around the negative feelings of feeling helpless, feeling of having your energy drained away stress with having to deal with kids 24/7. It also gives you an insight how to rid your life of complications and to simply it so that you are more at ease with yourself and be more peaceful. It is definitely a must read for all who are interested to get a better understanding of oneself and seeking a positive change to one’s mindset.
I have been reading this book – Kids are from Jupiter by Mark chamberlain and have picked up many good tips from his book
In summary it talks about the 5 greatest parental mistakes
Giving into guiltby taking upon the mistakes of the children as your own. It is okay if children make mistakes. It is only bad if they do not learn from it. It is not possible for your child not to make mistakes or be infallible as you personally are not.
Striving for Perfectionism. Stop!! Don’t do that you are not bringing up robots. If all your kids problems/battles are being solved by you catering to their every need they will not be able to adapt to the real world and the how to be independent and face their own battles. They will not know/learn the techniques/skills needed for survival.
Being Overindulgent. Do not be afraid to deprive your kids. Sometimes they have too much of a good thing to learn how to appreciate it properly.
Failing to admit that they as parents foul up sometimes. Do admit your mistakes to you child if you commit any. It will only help to strengthen your relationship . Your child will give you plenty of changes to apologize, ask for forgiveness and try to do better.
Problems and errors are inevitable; how we handle them is up to us. We can be critical of ourselves or our children, or we can see our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow.
Shutting off the child. Irregardless of what tactic you try in an attempt to guide your child, make sure that you also keep the lines of communication open, be as perceptive as you can, and then trust your intuition about what’s best for your son or daughter.