Weekend Reflections: Deep in Thought
Sometimes I really wonder what is on my child’s mind. It would be interesting to know how their brain functions and how they connect the different ideas that pop into their heads. What is their train of thought and how do they get to such a conclusion?
The mind is indeed a very mysterious and wonderful organ. Any thought that enters in it would trigger a series of reactions which manifests itself both physically and mentally. If it was a good thought he would be happy while a bad thought would send him into a foul mood.
Even though it would be ideal if I could sensor off any bad thoughts from entering his mind but I know that this is impossible. There is certainly going to be good days and bad days for him. He will have to learn to deal with a whole array of different emotions and thoughts that will be going through his brain.
Monkey boy will have to learn how to internalize his feelings and reflect on what triggers the series of unhappy or disturbing thoughts for him. It won’t be easy but I’m sure he be able to cope if he has the right tools given/ taught to him.
I believe that it is important to teaching him the various life skills he needs in life starting from an early age. Many a times we may be so caught up in focusing on the academics side of education and neglect the more important parts of developing life skills and have a good spiritual grounding.
I have read articles about 12 yr olds and teenagers taking their lives or some of then turning to crime or other society ills as they are not able to cope with their own feelings and feel that they cannot turn to anyone for help. I really hope that Monkey boy and his siblings will grow up to be emotionally balanced individuals who are able to cope with the stress that life may bring them.
This school holidays I will be doing reviews with Monkey boy regarding his goals in life and teach him how to deal with any negative thoughts that he may have been harboring.
What do you intend to do with your kids to help them
grow up as emotionally stable individuals?
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December 1, 2012 @ 12:41 am
I, too, have spent time wondering what goes through the minds of my children as they give strange looks and show different body language. I try to ask them often what they are thinking about, good and bad. I want to know more so I can get the whole picture and figure out what I can do to help them. We can’t fix everything as parents, but that doesn’t stop us from trying. I will continue talking mostly. I want to reinforce that they can come to me for anything so they do not have to feel alone. Sometimes it is hard for children to come to their parents, so I always try to tell them if they can’t talk to me they can talk to my partner Linda. She has been there for these two kids ever since she walked into my life, and I can’t imagine a better friend for them. Though she takes on the role as a parent, she makes them feel more comfortable in some ways I guess than I do. I don’t want my kids to ever feel like they can’t tell me something or be afraid of how I will react, but I am happy they have someone else to talk to if they thought of talking to me is too intimidating.
December 1, 2012 @ 5:38 pm
It is so important to remember that we must teach our children so much beyond academics.
I often wonder what my kids are thinking, also.
December 1, 2012 @ 5:44 pm
Hopefully I can have an open relationship with my son and that he tells me everything that’s on his mind. Often times I do wonder what’s he thinking about, especially when I’ve reprimanded him for doing a bad thing. Was he sorry for what he did? Did he understand why I got mad? Or is he secretly planning my death? (Like Stewie in the Family Guy) Hopefully not the last one.
December 1, 2012 @ 7:46 pm
I also hope for emotionally balanced kids. I will always make sure that they know they can talk it out with me if they need to.
Leigh
December 2, 2012 @ 12:25 am
I think this question plagues moms and dads everywhere. We are hoping to learn to validate our kids’ feelings and ask them to describe their feelings so that they feel validated and, hopefully, learn to work through their troubles. Can I guarantee it will work? No. But I can hope. These days, in a more complex than ever society, it’s not just the parents that have influence. The very media does. We can do our best and hope.
December 2, 2012 @ 9:38 am
I think open and honest communications is key. My oldest and I often just talk and I always remind him that everyday is learning experience and that we are all human. I want him to know that I was once an 11 yr old and my husband and I can often relate.