Writer’s Workshop: The Vow

wedding photo

Eleven years ago on the 16th of June 2001 I made the greatest promise which  I will honor throughout my life here on earth.

I still remember that I said this speech in a steady voice in front of the priest , family and friends during our church wedding at Sacred Heart Church.


I, Dominique , take you R, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

These eleven years hasn’t been all smooth sailing for me as R and I have gone through our fair share of quarrels, misunderstandings and heartaches. Whenever I feel helpless or exhausted with trying to balance being a mom and a partner I reflect on the vow that I took back then and persevere on.

It is very easy for one to throw in the towel and announce the “D” word in a relationship. Most of the time it is due to mutual breakdown in communications and both parties not paying effort to keep up with the relationship. It takes two hands to clap and build a family. Neglect and having unrealistic expectation will only set both partners further apart from each other. Therefore it is important to constantly work at maintaining a marriage while growing as an individual.

Love and understanding, tolerance and respect are essentials building blocks which I emphasize on in our relationship. Forgive and forget are something which I practice as life is too short to keep on harping on each other and bearing grudges.

It would only make you a bitter person and turn the climate in the home from warm and comfy to icy cold and the love which was anchoring the family would slowly ebb away.  Being a child of divorced parents I know all too well how traumatic it would be for the kids if the parents divorced and certainly am not going to let my marriage end up that way.

Even though the kids take up a majority of my time I do try to schedule time out each day and time to work on our marriage with date nights and planning special meals/items just for my soul mate.

Knowing that he does appreciate all my effort is gratitude enough.  It was with GOD’s grace and family acceptance that we were able to be together.  Our paths have intertwined and now we walk together as one with a shared vision for our kids and our future together.


Where do you see yourself in your marriage /relationship ?

How are you working on it?

Jenny MatlockMama’s Losin’ It