Weekend Reflections- Bringing up Happy Kids
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| Taken during our trip to Hong Kong in 2008 |
Happy Kids = Happy Parents = A Happy Family
Happiness is infectious. It is something which can spread like wildfire that everyone welcomes into their home. Being in the state of happiness is something which I hope to be constantly in for myself and my family. It is not only GOOD for one’s mental state but also spiritually uplifting.
Having happy thoughts in our mind will help to block out unhappy/unwanted thoughts which may make us feel depressed and desolated.
As a parent it is not possible to prevent your child from feeling frustrated and angry at times however it is within your ability to help them out of their unhappy mode and lift their spirits.
There are a few simple things which you can do to raise a happy child.
- Great them with a smile or a kiss when they wake up in the morning/return from school.
Let them know that you love and care for them. Remind them that they are always on your mind.
It is really sweet hearing my boys calling ” Mummy we are home” when they reach the house. It is really nice to be validated by them and I too do the same for them. - Let your child plan his/her activities at times.
This few weeks Ryan has been asking me what he should do after he has completed the tasks I have assigned to him. I have been telling him to decide for himself what he would like to do since he has “extra” time after finishing his homework/chores. Sometimes he tells me that he is bored as there is nothing to do. I would reply to him that it is up to himself to make himself feel bored. If he didn’t want to be bored he could find something to do which he finds interesting and would occupy his time. - Teach your child as much as you can.Do not assume that they know everything or would learn or gain experiences by themselves as they go through the school system. They may not use every skill or information which you impart them. However there maybe a chance that what you have imparted to them will be vital to them when they are growing up. Many a times we would relate to what we have learned in our youth to solve existing problems. If the foundations were not laid when we were young we will be lost and helpless today. This could be the same for your child.
- Let your child know how important they are to you.
My children know that me going to work is not as important as spending time with them while they are growing up. Friends and family know that I willingly trade in an advancement in my career for spending quality time with the kids and giving them a memorable childhood. Playing and interacting with them while laying a good foundation is essential in giving them a head start in life.
What tidbits do you have in bringing up a Happy Kid?
October 17, 2010 @ 2:33 am
Great tips. Loved each and every one of them.
October 17, 2010 @ 2:33 am
Great tips. Loved each and every one of them.
July 12, 2011 @ 5:30 pm
Hi, I’m visiting from Time Traveler Tuesday. These are good tips. I would add, take care of yourself. A happy mom will find it easier to create a positive environment for raising a happy child.
July 12, 2011 @ 10:19 pm
@Donna,
I agree. Taking care of myself is very important as my well being and state of mind certainly affects the mood of the kids.
July 12, 2011 @ 9:28 pm
Implement routine early, and balance discipline with affection. Kids need boundaries, but they need a gentle hand to help them discover those boundaries.
July 12, 2011 @ 10:44 pm
@Julie,
Words of wisdom. It’s quite tricky to get an balance.
July 13, 2011 @ 1:17 am
Stopping by from Time Travel Tuesday. I stumbled, already followed and Google +1 you!
July 13, 2011 @ 3:38 am
I totally agree with everything you said. I love getting to be a part of my son’s learning.
Stopping from Time Travel Tuesday!
July 13, 2011 @ 9:25 am
I wish we could protect our wee ones from all of life’s unpleasantness, but we can’t and so it’s our job to love them and validate them and allow them to grow into their own beings.