Grace for the Imperfect Mom

Grace for the Imperfect Mom
Grace for the Imperfect Mom

Grace for the Imperfect Mom: A 31-Day Invitation to Refreshed Mothering by  Julie Fisk, Kristen Dermey and Kendra Roehl is a book which reflects on the journey of a mom.

Within a span of  31 Days  stories are shared on  how motherhood has been for the author in the areas of  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control and grace.

It is not easy to be a mother. There is a lot of learning through trial and error.  Sometimes we look too much at perfection to learn how to let go. To find joy in the imperfect and to simply be there in the moment to be fully with the kids as we go about spending time together each day.

There are so many ways which we rob ourselves of our happiness and joy. We give in to our doubts and worries and let negative thoughts flood our minds at time. This prevents us from surrendering the problem to GOD.  Sometimes we think of the worst and it  burn our brain cells over it and in the end nothing bad occurs. In fact the terrible scenario which we tried to preempt ourselves  for does not happen.

We try to control too many things on our end and forget that there is a higher power (GOD) which we can turn to give us the peace that  we seek.

My thoughts 

I found this book and excellent read. There are questions asked at the end of each chapter which makes one reflect on  the current way that she is parenting and to be more accepting of her flaws and victories.

As a women we need to love ourselves and value our achievements.  Don’t down play what you have achieved so far and be more accepting towards compliments  which are given.

I totally agree with this statement in this book. We were taught from young to underplay our achievement as it would not make others think that we are proud and arrogant.  This is a very negative way of expression/thinking which should not be promoted. One should always celebrate their achievements and also strive to do their best.

 Most of us  set our standards based on the world’s standard instead of focusing on GOD’s standard. We assume the right way and the best thing to do is what society wants of us instead of really thinking through to see if it is appropriate for us and in line with what GOD wants us to do.

The misalignment  occurs as we are stressing over every little thing in seeking perfection and recognition by others. Giving into earthly desires and wants have caused us to  look at others through tinted lenses.

Through the stories shared in the book the author shows how it is possible to experience  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control and grace. We just have to have faith in GOD and surrender it all to him.

Grab your copy of Grace for the Imperfect Mom: A 31-Day Invitation to Refreshed Mothering today

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Making Thunder Tea- Lei Cha 擂茶

The Pestle and Mortar
The Pestle and Mortar

During the last trip to Taiwan I tried my hand on making Thunder Tea at 苗栗縣南庄鄉蓬萊村 Penglai Village, Nanzhuang Township, Miaoli County with R and his friend Z . It was a really interesting experience for me.

Thunder Tea  ( 擂茶) is the native tea of the Hakka people who live in Taiwan.  Lei cha is not the same as Taiwanese tea because there are always other ingredients. Pounded tea consists of a mix of tea leaves and herbs that are ground or pounded together with various roasted nuts, seeds, grains, and flavorings.

Ingredients for Hakka Tea

The traditional ingredients of lei cha are:

  • tea leaves (either green tea or oolong)
  • raw sesame seeds
  • roasted peanuts

Other ingredients which  can be added:

  • raw pine nuts
  • sunflower seeds
  • cooked or puffed rice
  • lentils
  • mint leaves
  • mung beans

The ingredients are mixed to a ratio of 3 parts tea leaves, 3 parts sesame seeds and peanuts, and 1 part remaining ingredients.

Instructions for Making Hakka Tea

Place all the ingredients in a ceramic bowl and grind them with a wooden pestle. Add a small amount of water as you grind to make a paste.

The resulting paste is mixed with hot water and served in bowls. Lei cha was traditionally served salty, but today is often sweetened with sugar.

Hakka tea is a healthy drink that may account for the renowned longevity of the Hakka people. It is often served with rice and side dishes of vegetables, tofu, and pickles.

Adding the ingredients one by one
Adding the ingredients one by one

After listening to the instructions we set off to “work”. For this particular workshop we used red tea leaves instead of green tea as it was late afternoon. They do not recommend that one take green tea in the afternoon/ evening as if you are sensitive to  caffeine and it may keep you awake throughout the whole night.

Grinding the ingredients

Grinding the ingredients

It was teamwork for us as one was needed to hold the bowl while the other person does the grinding. You have to use your whole strength to grind. We had to grind up the tea leaves, sesame seeds and peanuts.  The other items were given to use pre-mixed so we just had to add them into  bowl to mix.



mixing the ingredients with the spoon.
mixing the ingredients with the spoon after they have been grind

When all the ingredients were ready we added hot water into the mixture and the tea was ready to be drunk.

Thunder Tea
Thunder Tea


As there were many ingredients being used in the tea it was rather “thick” as compared to traditional Chinese tea. I didn’t really like the taste as  the green teas that I am used to drinking.

Have you tasted Thunder Tea before?

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