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Year End Reflections 2017


2017 moving on to 2018

2017 moving on to 2018

We are now in the tail end of 2018. In exactly 27 more days we will be ringing in the new year. It’s time to welcome the new year again. It is the time for year end reflections and to look back to see how the year has been while at the same time planning and re- setting the goals for the next year.

2017 has been moving at breathtaking speed with non stop roller coaster action for me and the kids. This year my focus was slightly different from before. In January I listed out 20 Ideas to Make this the Best Year Ever. If you are lazy to click over to look at the post I’m posting it here again in this post to let you know my progress down that list.

  1. Make a conscious effort to de-clutter your surroundings.  ( I have been doing this on  quarterly basis)
  2. Visit new places  (I’ve been to a few new cafes/shops in Singapore that only opened this year)
  3. Make new friends ( I’m averaging about a totally new friend every month or so)
  4. Re-connect with old friends/ acquaintances  ( I’ve met up with friends I made 14yrs ago from the baby forum which I joined when Monkey boy was born. It had been nearly 10+ years since I met up with some of them and was really good to catch up with the gals)
  5. Take up a course ( I’ve taken up AED + CPR and now a certified First Aider)
  6. Learn a new language ( I’m started learning Korean online and am still going through the modules)
  7. Re-commit to a exercise regime ( This year I had my virgin appearance at a gym and have restarted my home gym exercises)
  8. Sleep better ( Still work in progress on this)
  9. Eat clean / healthy ( I’m eating salads on a daily basis and have upped my intake of vegetables and fruits)
  10. Focus on yourself before others ( My health and sanity is of the utmost importance  and I now say NO more often then before to things that will not be beneficial towards me)
  11. Learn from the past and DON’T repeat it.  ( I’m extremely clear what I want and don’t want now )
  12. Remove the bad apples and keep the good apples in your life (I’m now more careful and more stringent about the people that I want in the kids and my life. I do not want any toxic people to traumatize or spoil their childhood. )
  13. Stay away from unnecessary drama (from other people)  ( I refuse to get suck into useless feuds nor indulge in idle gossip. If they aren’t able to deal with their own issues it is their problem don’t throw it onto me as I won’t be picking up any of your trash on your behalf)
  14. Revamp your wardrobe  ( I’ve changed many pieces of clothing in my wardrobe this year as they have gotten too loose to wear. I’ve also updated it with more trendy pieces)
  15. Streamline your operations and optimize  (The household has been running more smoothly since I’ve done some amendments to everyone’s schedule. Now that the kids are bigger they are able to help out more therefore working as a team lesser time is needed to get the daily chores done)
  16. Spend more time  with family and love ones. ( I’m spending max time with the kids after school, bringing them out to have more varied and new experience and also doing more activities 1 on 1)
  17. Hug and Kiss more  ( The guys are getting more hugs from me now as they are not really into kisses since they are older)
  18. Create a Vision board ( I have been having one up in my room since last year and slowly everything is falling in place)
  19. Plan regular date nights  ( I do both afternoon dates and night date with the kids depending on their schedule) 
  20. Read more ( I’m exploring reading more varied genres that I have been previously reading to widen my knowledge)

Score: 19/20

Me in my CNY Outfit

Me in my CNY Outfit

In Feb I  finished my final post in the education series which I started off in 2015 entitled – Bridging the GAP  I initially aimed to do a series a year however family commitments grew heavier as the kids grew up therefore the series got sideline till I finally had the chance to pen the last post.

Having read and studied up about health I was more focus on working on achieving fat loss besides weight loss. This year I’ve tried two different programs and got to know more about how my body functions and what is the best way for me to keep up my energy levels and staying healthy. Even though I am still far from my personal weight goal I’m better equipped in my knowledge on health and nutrition . The main reason why it has been an extremely difficult journey to optimal weight/ fitness has to deal with the intense STRESS levels that I have been having this year.

I’ve yet to learn how to reduce my stress level when I get triggered by external circumstances or environment.  I guess when the main issue which I am facing this year gets resolved next year it will be a great load off my back.

You can say that I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting this year and getting to know myself better. I now am more certain of what I want and set my boundaries even more clearly then before. My level of tolerance for certain people and situations have greatly plummeted as I no longer put up with Toxic individuals who are only doing things on their own agenda for their own benefit.  I have redefined who constitutes as family members to me and you can be certain that blood relations that are tainted are not even considered within the definition.

Me in a floral dress

Me in a floral dress

I’m more determined then ever to achieve my goals and get to where I project myself to be come 2018.

How has 2017 been for you?


Finding a New ME- Mental Wellness

Since this series started  Nov last year I have yet to start writing a post on it even after the initial teaser post and 16th week check in post 

The past few months had been extremely busy for me and I  haven’t had the time to pen all my thoughts down.  Now that my schedule has more or less settled I can spend more time here on the blog and continue the series which I have put on hold.

Photo of Me

Photo of Me

Since last year I have been tweaking  my exercise and diet routine and experimenting on several different things to increase my energy levels.   Taking care of ones personal   mental  wellness is essential and I’m determined to take very good care of myself.

MENTAL Wellness

 is defined as “a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community.”


It is extremely important  to take care of one’s mental health in order to do well in life. You need a balance to be able to function at an optimal level.

There are many aspects in  mental wellness that one has to take note of.  The  factors that make up wellness are defined in the poster above.

  1. Emotional wellness
    the ability to understand ourselves and cope with the challenges life can bring through acknowledging and share feelings of anger, fear, sadness or stress; hope, love, joy and happiness in a productive manner.
  2. Physical Wellness
    the ability to maintain a healthy quality of life that allows us to get through our daily activities without undue fatigue or physical stress. The ability to recognize that our behaviors have a significant impact on our wellness and adopting healthful habits (routine check ups, a balanced diet, exercise, etc.) while avoiding destructive habits (tobacco, drugs, alcohol, etc.)
  3. Financial Wellness
    the ability to be financially sufficient  with an understanding of spending habits, To be able to budget and plan for financial freedom.
  4. Social wellness
    the ability to relate to and connect with other people in our world through establishing and maintaining positive relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
  5. Mental wellness
    the ability to establish peace and harmony in our lives. The ability to develop congruence between values and actions and to realize a common purpose that binds creation together
  6. Environmental wellness
    the ability to recognize our own responsibility for the quality of the air, the water and the land that surrounds us and how we can make a positive impact on the quality of our environment.
  7. Intellectual wellness
    the ability to open our minds to new ideas and experiences that can be applied to personal decisions, group interaction and community betterment through the  desire to learn new concepts, improve skills and seek challenges in pursuit of lifelong learning .
  8. Spiritual wellness
    the ability to understand GOD and his WORD. To have a purpose of live based on the values and teaching of GOD.

All these eight dimensions have  to be well integrated for one to have a balanced life. It is no mean feat for one to achieve and it does need a lot of effort for one not to neglect one dimension in favor of another.

Is it possible to simultaneous develop all these different dimensions at the same time?

This is a question which I have pondered over for quite a while.  I deliberated on how to achieve it given my current situation and understanding.  There isn’t a model answer to this question but what I do know that it is certainly doable if one takes calculated steps to attain the desired goal.

In the next few posts I will be going through all the above mentioned points in detail starting with Emotional Wellness.

What have you been doing to develop yourself?

  1. Finding a New Me – An Intro
  2. Finding a New Me- Results after 16 weeks
  3. Finding a New Me – Mental Wellness
  4. Finding a New Me- Emotional Wellness
  5. Finding a New Me – Social Wellness
  6. Finding a New Me – Spiritual Wellness