Embracing Motherhood

Me Embracing Motherhood

Monkey boy when he was a toddler

Monkey boy when he was a toddler

5th March 2004. That is the official date that I started on my  journey as a mom. It was a date that both R and I eagerly waited for since we got married on 16th June 2001.

It was a rocky start to motherhood for me as I endured two miscarriages prior to having Monkey boy. We have always wanted children and it was in our plan that I would stay home and take care of the kids once they arrive. Our first child arrived four years later then expected but it was all in GOD’s timing.

By that time we were more financially stable and we could make the decision for me to stay home to oversee the development of Monkey boy.  I’ve always believed  that I should be a hands on mom and one who is able to provide both physically and emotionally for my kids.  To be there to play with them and guide them through their childhood.

I want to be able to witness all the different milestones that my children go through and be there to give them the support and encouragement that they need in order to become a better person.

Monkey boy and us at Hong Kong Disneyland back in  2008

Monkey boy and us at Hong Kong Disneyland back in 2008

You can say that Monkey  is one of my greatest teacher. Since he was born I have been on a never ending rollercoaster ride in my journey as a mother. From breastfeeding to educating  it has been a ride filled with both excitement and apprehension as I tackle the various daily challenges that are thrown my way.

Even till today I’m still learning more about handling challenging kids through him.

Doggie boy when he was a baby

Doggie boy when he was a baby

On 13 Dec 2006 we had our 2nd addition to the family.  Even though I have experience taking care of Monkey boy, taking care of Doggie boy was a totally different ball game.

 

He was perceptually hungry and demanded more attention than his elder brother.  His temperament was different and I had quite a bit of adjusting to do in regards to care giving.

I was juggling  two kids singlehandedly who were 2.5 years apart and it wasn’t easy catering to their demands while working full time.  It wasn’t easy handling both the kids and teaching but I gritted my teeth and made it through those trying years.

Tiger girl as a baby

Tiger girl as a baby

When the boys were at a more manageable age we decided to try for a girl as R always wanted a girl.  We were blessed with the birth of Tiger girl on 12. 09. 2010.

What has motherhood meant for me ??

Being a mother has brought about a change in outlook in my life. With three parts of myself living outside my body I’m more generous with my time and energies as compared to  the time when I was  sans kids.

I’ve learnt to be more flexible and work with tight budgets and time frames. This also means coming up with ingenious ideas to make sure that everything works and runs smoothly on a regular basis.

I’m constantly tweaking my teaching methods and schedules to see what works best for everyone in the family to have everything run at optimal levels.

Innovation and creativity plays a bigger part of my daily life and I fully embrace the time that I have here on earth with the kids.

What have I learned from being a mother?  

#1 It is possible to have it all.

Yes. Having time for yourself, your kids and your spouse. It doesn’t mean that now the kids are here your needs or your spouses needs get relegated a lower priority.

All( Kids, Hubby and Myself ) are of equal importance and with careful planning and detailed work it IS possible to have time and energy to focus on all these areas.  I was grossly neglecting myself and hubby and as a result our  relationship suffered. Never again will I commit the same mistake again!!

# Go with your GUT!!

You yourself know what is best for your kids and your family. Do not be overly influenced by the media, friends or relatives around you. They do not know your situation nor really care if your mess up or fail in your attempt due to you following their “helpful advice”.  Mother’s intuition has proven to be very accurate.

 

embracing motherhood

With this post we conclude the blog train on Embracing Motherhood here on Dominique’s Desk. If you are interested  to read about what the other 25 mothers have to say about their journey as a mother do click on over to our Embracing Motherhood Landing Post. 

Embracing Motherhood

embracing motherhood

Motherhood is a journey that many of us are currently on. It is a journey fill which we embark on from the birth of our first child till when we depart from this earth.

This life long journey leads us through a great variety of feeling which may make us feel an all time high or sink us to the deepest depths of despair.

Everyday is a learning journey and not one mother will have exactly the same experiences.

Join me and 25 other bloggers as we share how we embrace motherhood starting from the 12th of March.

 12th March – Ling Siew Ng  of MamaShoppe

 13th March–  Christy  Wong of Kids are Simple

14th March-  Ruth Song of Ruth Song 

15th March– Angelia Ang of Growing hearts

16th March– Madeline Heng of MadPsychMum

17th March– WaiWai of PeipeiHaoHao

19th March– Meiling Wong-Chainani of Universalscribbles

19th March– Shermeen Ching of Meeningfully

20th March– Jolin Poon of J’s Arena

21st March– Cen-Lin Ting of Miracule

22nd March- Winnie Lee of  Toddlymummy

23rd March– Angeline Ng of Simplymommie

24th March– Adora Tan of Gingerbreadmum

25th March– Jennifer Lim of Dinomama

26th March– Danessa Foo of PrayerfullMum

27th March– Lu Jiahui of Mumseword

28th March– Pearlyn Lim of  Blessed Family

29th March– Ashlyn Thia of Ashlyn Thia 

30th March- Estella  Goh of Sooddlydreamlike

31st March- Rachael  Joel-Tan of Jahbella

1st April-Lin YanXiang of  The Littlest and us makes three

2nd April – Qian Wen of Raising Our Successful Children

3rd April- Beverly Woo of Hello Little Sunshine

4th April– Dawn Liling of Daprayer Blog

5th April– Valerie Choy of Home On The Stone

6th- April– Dominique  My round up post of this blog train.

Will you be joining us?

 

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