Blogging Positivity Week- Overcoming Inadequacies
Does the supermom syndrome get to you at times? You want to do so much but am physically and mentally constrained by your current environment? I sometimes do feel this way.
The plan is written out nicely but does not get the end result desired. There maybe a glitch in the execution and maybe it’s just because I’m not experienced enough or haven’t had the right opportunities to be able to reach my blogging goals as yet.
It is so easy to get swayed from your goals when the path starts to get rocky and more obstacles get thrown your way then you expect. You start looking at other people and may get a twinge of envy running through you as you see them as more successful/capable then you are.
Everyone has their abilities and limitations and I too am aware of mine. Over the years I come to learn and realized that it’s no point comparing myself to the bigger more successful bloggers even though I still am trying to be able to generate much more revenue from this blog . I’m still hoping that I be able to afford my DSLR camera by the end of this year and am striving with my limited means to work towards this goal.
Sometime I feel like I’m my own toughest critic as I may have set the standard too high for myself and just setting myself up for failure.
I want to be a successful blogger and generate a steady income from blogging/freelance writing but it really seems so hard to squeeze out the time from my already jam packed schedule.
I would like to have more clients/projects but at the same time wonder if I will be able to meet all the deadlines set and still settle all my family commitments on a daily basis. I don’t want to compromise the needs of my family just for the sake of work and earning an income.
For a fleeting moment I have pondered on whether I have made the right decisions on how I want to take this blog. Luckily these moments are few and infrequent.
I know for a fact that it is no point wondering and worrying about things which are beyond your control and that it would be better to leave it to GOD and just try to do my best. Everything will work out in it’s own way. It has been the case for me in my family life and at present my main focus is on family.
Even when family members doubted how I would be able to cope solo with the household and 3 kids as R flies off very frequently I strongly believe that it was possible and was sure that I will be able to cope anyway. I believed that I would be able to find a way to manage somehow and have been able to do it quite well so far.
It isn’t easy being the main caregiver to 3 hyper active kids, cook, clean , teach, chauffeur them around and still have time to indulge in blogging , freelance writing and website building project, baking, photography and maintaining relationships with friends and relatives. The house is not sparkling clean and not everything is in perfect order but it’s good enough for me and my family.
I’m confident with this blog it will work out too and I’ll be able to meet my blogging goals.
March 23, 2012 @ 1:27 am
Keep positive! Just remember that no one is perfect. In fact, perfection or the appearance of perfection creates distance between people. People love you (and your blog) more for being imperfect! Imperfection creates closeness because people don’t feel intimidated — they can relate to you better. And imperfection is much more interesting, anyway. So continue to do what you love, and other people will love it, too. And kudos on all your accomplishments!
March 23, 2012 @ 2:26 am
I think we all feel the same way at times. I know that I do. Just keep writing and all will come together!~
March 23, 2012 @ 2:51 am
Umm… that part about ‘inadequacies’ hit too close to home 😀
Ever since I discovered the Mummy blogs, I’ve had moments when I think that I’m the lousiest parent ever, and I worry about providing adequately for my son. Then I think to myself – I give my best to him, in whichever way I am able to and know how without pushing boundaries… and hope fervently that my best is good enough.
Everything I do as a parent is in my son’s best interest, and is a reflection of my innermost beliefs, thoughts and abilities. I may not be the best or most productive mum ever – but I dare say that I give myself an A+ for effort.
Perfection is in seeing the beauty in imperfections – or so I tell myself, in moments of self-doubt! 🙂
March 23, 2012 @ 3:47 am
I’ve had to remind myself frequently to “let go and let God.” Regardless of what your view on what “God” is, there is something to be said for letting go of the fear and questions and just letting what be to be. Hang in there, stay focused, and you’ll get to where you’re supposed to be!
March 23, 2012 @ 4:16 am
No one is perfect and the person who thinks they are are not striving to make themselves better.
March 23, 2012 @ 4:29 am
I think everyone feels the way you do every once in awhile…. It’s normal. I feel that way a lot lately. Must be something in the air. You do so much and it doesn’t go unnoticed. Give yourself a break now and again!
March 23, 2012 @ 8:53 am
Dominique, you are doing great, really. I kow tow to you being able to teach your 3 kids very very well in many areas, yet handle house chore, bake, cook, arrange outdoor activities/playdates solo. You are my idol!
Don’t compare with other bloggers. They may not be doing what you are doing
March 23, 2012 @ 11:53 am
I definitely feel overwhelmed at times – just keep swimming just keep swimming hehe 🙂
March 23, 2012 @ 7:02 pm
That Super Mom Syndrome tries hard to get in the way, but the most important thing to remember is to enjoy the journey. It will all come together at the right time.
March 23, 2012 @ 7:47 pm
@yayashome,
Yes enjoying the journey is more important.. I’m trying very hard to remember that and not get distracted.
March 23, 2012 @ 7:29 pm
It is normal to feel overwhelmed sometimes. Don’t forget YOU need some loving too. So make sure you make time for yourself. When I feel there’s too much to do, I will reassess and reflect to make sure I am not wasting time on the unimportant things.
March 23, 2012 @ 7:46 pm
@DG,
Thanks for your comment. I do make time for myself all throughout the day as it’s difficult to get a block period with the kids.
March 23, 2012 @ 11:37 pm
Just remember that this blogging stuff takes time. Your blog ages like a fine wine actually, and if you focus on keyword optimizing, and even going back through posts to fine tune keywords, you can keep improving and growing your audience. Even if you don’t have tons of time, a very well crafted post now and then, is better than a bunch junk, you know what I mean? Hang in there!
March 24, 2012 @ 2:04 am
Dominique, I’ve recently realized that being a big, successful blog is a mind set. Set your mind to what your mission and goal is with blogging, and then do so with authority. Be confident that you are a big, successful blog, every time you write something… and before you know it, you will create the reality you dream of. You aren’t alone in feeling overwhelmed with all of it. So many of us feel the same way, yet we continue to write because we feel our words are valuable and important to our readers. And they are! Keep on keeping on, and trust God to lead you personally, creatively, and financially toward His plan and blessings for you.
Hugs to you my friend,
~Rosann
March 24, 2012 @ 5:16 am
I have found out that I too set standards high for myself… is it good? is it bad? No clue. All I do know is that when I do things and do not think about it I seem to be less overwhelmed.