This week this visual prompt in Mama Kat’s Writer’s prompt really “spoke” to me. Like Kat I too have seen this message circulating around in Facebook.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit and revaluing the friendships and acquaintances that I have. Should I keep them or just ditch them?
It can be quite frustrating when you try your best effort to keep in contact with a person but she/he constantly finds excuses and constantly reschedules meet up dates or doesn’t reply when you try to confirm an appointment. You realized that you haven’t even met up for nearly 10 years even though she lives around the corner!!
It’s really obvious it’s time to ditch that person when someone seems too busy to even schedule meet up for a coffee but is able to answer the questions you post on Facebook. It only shows how “fake” she can be and the value she places on her friendship with you.
There is no point reminiscing on the good times you had together or how faith has led to you crossing path and how you met each other. The other party clearly does not appreciate your efforts to maintain the friendship.
Friends/People come and go but only the genuine ones will stay.
I just pressed a button which I should have pressed years ago – DELETE
17 comments
Frelle
October 6, 2011 at 12:42 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
It feels good, doesn’t it? To have enough wisdom and self respect to focus on those who help you grow and participate in friendship, rather than drain and give toxicity. Thanks for commenting on my post, and nice to meet you!
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Splendid Little Stars
October 6, 2011 at 1:07 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
so true…
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Jessica
October 6, 2011 at 2:23 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Good for you. Friends like that are not friends at all. Stopping in from Mama Kats
Paula Kiger
October 6, 2011 at 7:24 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Well said. I also think that social media makes this kind of thing a bit more blurry — you feel like you know details of their life that you would not know otherwise but that’s not because they’re actively sharing with YOU – it’s because they’re talking about their life on social media. There’s definitely a difference. Thanks for sharing this!
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Stacia
October 6, 2011 at 8:13 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Friendships evolve, and it’s always tough. Good for you for taking charge!
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Lola
October 6, 2011 at 9:46 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Such food for thought!
Happy A-Thursday,
Lola:)
June Freaking Cleaver
October 6, 2011 at 11:52 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Facebook allows you to re-connect with acquaintances – and lets you see that they should remain in that category.
Friends show up, they call, they want to be with you.
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Dominique
October 7, 2011 at 8:39 am (UTC 8) Link to this comment
I agree.. they now have this acquaintance category with the latest updates.. I have stopped adding “friends” on my facebook lists and “trimmed” off those unwanted people who I really do not want in my life or don’t know in real life.
Anastasia
October 7, 2011 at 12:45 am (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Good! I hope it felt good to get rid of that negative weight!
JDaniel4's Mom
October 7, 2011 at 2:47 am (UTC 8) Link to this comment
It is hard to see some friendships end! I have had a few that I realized had stopped being friendships long before they ended.
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Morning
October 7, 2011 at 10:14 am (UTC 8) Link to this comment
it is sad to see friendship end,
blessings,
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SUPAHMAMA
October 7, 2011 at 10:48 am (UTC 8) Link to this comment
I agree with Paula up there in that social networking makes these lines so much more blurry. It’s hard to make the distinction between friend and fake when they’re constantly communicating through FB/Twitter.
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Self Sagacity
October 8, 2011 at 9:16 am (UTC 8) Link to this comment
I knew one of those. Her priorities were just in the wrong places. The she that I knew did the flaky routine to everyone…the problem between me and the rest of the world is that I actually thought she was better than that- others didn’t- they were more awake than I was.
Anyhow, I had to learn to be very strict with my relationships too. Life is too short, it is so much nicer to have a handful of true friends, or even one or two, than a lot of takers and fakers. Good luck my dear, you can do it!
jackie
October 8, 2011 at 10:29 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Great post! I find myself no longer making an effort with one specific person. We had reconnected after SHE emailed me asking to. She had read a post I had written about her and how I missed her and she responded saying she felt the same way. She had been reading my blog for about a year without me knowing or even contacting me. After she emailed me, we went out twice, and we actually had a great time. We kept emailing each other, reconnected on FB and then she stopped. I would email her and her responses would be so short. We had planned to get together again, but we didn’t. I even noticed she blocked me from her FB wall. So, I’m not trying anymore, I’ve blocked her from my wall as well. I’m not sure why I can’t just delete her from FB though.
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Cheryl D.
October 9, 2011 at 3:20 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Sometimes it is time to move on. It’s sad though!
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taylorsoutback
October 9, 2011 at 11:16 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
Sometimes we mourn the loss of friendships – what went wrong? People change & move in new directions as they grow. It took me over 60 years to understand that not everyone wants to be friends or me with them. And right after learning that, it was easier to distance myself from those I found difficult to be around.
“If you have one true friend, you have more than your share.” (Thomas Fuller)
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Jenny Matlock
October 11, 2011 at 9:55 pm (UTC 8) Link to this comment
I loved this!
It’s been a hard lesson for me to learn that family members aren’t always friends.
I have to ask myself sometimes if a negative, harsh person in my family is someone I would even be friends with.
When the answer is no, I just keep my distance.
No sense putting your heart on the line for naught.
Thanks for a wonderful thoughtful post! I really, really admire the message you shared here.
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