Weekend Reflections- Listening to the Great Parenting Show
The Great Parenting Show Teleseminar Series is something which I have been listening to lately. These series of FREE 12-week seminar features many great parenting coaches addressing a wide range of issues which today’s parents face.
This week I have listened to the Teleseminar by Hal Runkel the author of ScreamFree parenting. I have read his book before and he has many good tips on how to make your parenting journey more enjoyable.
In his talk he mentioned how to make your kids take onus /responsibility for his own action and not take responsibility for his action. Give him choices and also consequences for his action and not adhering to what is told.
He mentions not to force your kid into a corner or else to exert his/her independence is to defy you and to do the exact opposite of what you want them to do.
One of the listeners asked how to make their child do their homework faster and stop procastinating. I too face this problem with Ryan as he has a knack of dilly dallying and taking ages to get things done.
One of his suggestion is to set a 15 min timer for the child to sit down and do his work. If he is not able to finish then some of his privileges be taken away. It will take some time to find out what works for your child and only by trial and error would one fine the best time for the child to sit down to finish up his homework within the given time. I may try that with Ryan over the weekend to see if it works with him.
Parents can make a change by changing their attitude towards their child. Let your child know how you feel and what you will do if they are not focusing. Do not jump in and take responsibility for their children’s actions or mistakes and let them be responsible for the decisions that they make while giving suggestions on what they can do to solve their own problems.
Parents play a “helper” role instead of a dictator so that the children know they have to take charge of their own decisions.
Sometimes we as parents must learn how to let go and let the kids make their own mistakes/decisions so that they will be able to grow into independent adults. It doesn’t pay to constantly “baby” time as it will only do more harm then good to them.
I do recommend that you sign up for this series of free tele-seminars as there are lots of anecdotes which are very beneficial for enhancing your life as a parent.
