Your Family Constituion- A Review & Giveaway

Your Family Constitution: A Modern Approach to Family Values and Household Structure

This past month I have been focusing a lot on  family renewal and building up a better relationship with both my spouse and kids.

Early July I was privillaged to receive a copy of Your Family Constitution by Scot Gale. I was introduced to this book by Vered of Momgrind.

Scott’s book was an eye opener for me as it taugh me how to create a Family Constitution which is unique and best suited for the needs of my family.

In this modern world that we live in we are very easily sidetracked by the attraction of material wants and personal satisfaction to spend enough attention and focus on the family.

Our personal values may not be in the best interest of or family and could be the source of conflict in our relationships with one another.

Scott talked about his Black Sunday whereby everything when haywire for him after getting into a huge arguement with his wife. While walking all the way back home from the beach it gave him the time needed to think about where his family was heading and how best to remedy this breakdown in communication.
Even though the boys are still relatively young I feel that it is about time that I start teaching them about our family values and teaching them about  rules and consequences for their actions.  I’m sure that fellow parents of young kids know the frustrations in getting them to understand the need of following instructions and letting them develop at their own pace.

Kids learn best when they are given guidelines and boundaries. With a set of rules and guidelines coupled with rewards and treats we can slowly shape them into well mannered individuals who at the same time are matured enough to make and stand by their own judgements.

I started a reward chart with Ryan earlier on this year which he has completed. I think that it is now time to work on a new reward/motivational chart for him and do up one for Ryan also. Besides the kids we as parents too should have a reward chart which could be prominently displayed so that the kids could see how that we too are working hard for our own rewards and model the behaviours that we hope to see cultivated  in them.

Reading Your Family Constitution has given me a better understanding on what I would like to incalculate in the upbringing of my kids. It has sparked off lots of ideas on how I can revise our family motto and vision and incorporate the kids suggestions into making our own family constitution.

Scott Gale has very generously agreed to let me give away a copy of his book to one of the lucky readers here at Dominique’s Desk.

Giveaway Regulations

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  1. Go to Scott’s site   and come back here  leaving a comment  in this post telling me why you think your should be the winner of this book.
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Entries must follow the rules or they will not be deems eligible for the prize.

This contest ends on Sunday September 27, 2009

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Weekend Reflections- Spending Time

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This past week I have been spending a lot of time with R.

It has been some time since we last went on a kid free holiday. It felt so carefree and relax as I need not need to lug around extra luggage and carry the boys (especially Roy) when they get tired.  Lugging a 14kg toddler is not something that I fancy as it would mean an aching back and arms. It also will relate to me being unable to do any shopping or spending time chatting with my friends in a cafe.

It is great to be able to sleep in and not be constantly interrupted during the night by Roy waking up and I having to go over to pacify him or him climbing into bed with us.

I have the opportunity to walk hand in hand with R browsing through window displays and talking about the plans that we have for ourselves as a couple and as a family.

When is the last time you spend time together without the kids?

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