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No More Misbehavin’- Michele Borba

No More Misbehavin’- Michele Borba is the latest book that I have been reading. There are many anecdotes on how to arrest misbehaviour in your child.

The book focuses on behaviour modification and how to develop a behavioural checklist for your child. The author lays out step by step how to do deal with each difficult behaviour. The parts which were of most interest to me is identifying the underlying cause for the particular behaviour.

The author stresses the importance of:

  1. Finding out what causes the behaviour
  2. Addressing the wanting behaviour immediately
  3. For the parent to be diciplined in carrying out the change management for the behaviour
  4. For the child to understand why there is the need to change and how to change for the better.

There has been mixed reviews about this book on Amazon and I do agree that the techniques recommended per behaviour are based on modifications of 1 technique.

What technique you may want to know?

Step 1- Idenfity the behaviour/(s) that you want the child to change

Step 2- Draw out a plan with the child in writing on what will be done if he behaves that way- Ie throwing tantrums . Define the  punishments & consequences that come along with the misbehaviour.

Step 3- Sending your child to time out/detention if he gets two strikes out.

Step 4- Getting your child to earn back his privilages.

I wouldn’t recommend buying the book to read as it does get a bit monotous going through each behaviour example.

I rate this book a 3 out of 5 for readibility and usefulness.

New header, new directions

Today I decided that this blog needed a facelift. I was tired of the old header and wanted something new. Do you like the new design. The animals on top are representatives of everyone in the family. Doggie & Monkey = Roy & Ryan. Pig & Horse = Hubby and Me ( Based on our Chinese horoscopes). The dimensions are not that perfect yet and will have to work on it..but will have to leave it till I get more time on my hands this week.

I conducted my first survey for the subscribers on my mailing list. It seems that many parents are interested in learning more about social development and mental health of a child. Will need to do a more indepth study in those areas before I can write up my next e-book. 🙂