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July 15, 2008

Is respect for religion doggone?

Dominique Parenting Views Bad behaviour, church, respect for religion

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Last weekend we went to a different church from our usual place .It was a real eye opener for me. The church service was “Hellish” for me. I was greatly sadden at how the fellow worshipers were being irreverence in GOD’s sanctuary. During the mass they were busy chatting among themselves on unrelated issues , replying to text messages on their mobile. I could close an eye if it was a young child asking questions about the sermon that is being preached or parts of the mass he didn’t understand, but these were teenagers, adults and even the elderly!!

What BAD Attitude and examples are they showing my impressionable toddlers?

First of all aren’t we all in church to pray and worship the LORD? Instead of taking in the word of GOD and pondering on how to improve your spirituality. I frown upon such ” Sunday Christian” who can’t even commit themselves to the 1 hour worship session.

I strongly feel if you,the parent, have decided to introduce your child to your religion the least you could do is show by example how you pay respect to the GOD that you have chosen to follow. If you are unable to show respect to Higher Authority how can you expect your child to understand and learn to appreciate this spiritual being when you are blatantly behaving otherwise? It is even stated by the church the importance of being silent during mass. There are even announcements made on screen to remind church goers to turn off their mobile or switch it to silent during service.

Talk about the breakdown of the proper church etiquette.

July 4, 2008

5 Greatest Parental Mistakes

Dominique Book Review, Parenting Views Book Review

I have been reading this book – Kids are from Jupiter by Mark chamberlain and have picked up many good tips from his book

In summary it talks about the 5 greatest parental mistakes

Giving into guilt by taking upon the mistakes of the children as your own. It is okay if children make mistakes. It is only bad if they do not learn from it. It is not possible for your child not to make mistakes or be infallible as you personally are not.
Striving for Perfectionism. Stop!! Don’t do that you are not bringing up robots. If all your kids problems/battles are being solved by you catering to their every need they will not be able to adapt to the real world and the how to be independent and face their own battles. They will not know/learn the techniques/skills needed for survival.
Being Overindulgent. Do not be afraid to deprive your kids. Sometimes they have too much of a good thing to learn how to appreciate it properly.
Failing to admit that they as parents foul up sometimes. Do admit your mistakes to you child if you commit any. It will only help to strengthen your relationship . Your child will give you plenty of changes to apologize, ask for forgiveness and try to do better.
Problems and errors are inevitable; how we handle them is up to us. We can be critical of ourselves or our children, or we can see our mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow.
Shutting off the child. Irregardless of what tactic you try in an attempt to guide your child, make sure that you also keep the lines of communication open, be as perceptive as you can, and then trust your intuition about what’s best for your son or daughter.