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Guest Post: Do you have each other’s backs?

Dominique — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 04:10:03 +0000

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I recently watched an episode of Up All Night, where Christina Applegate’s character Reagan goes on a mean-spree through the airport in her stress of traveling with an infant, all the while her husband Chris, played by Will Arnett, follows behind her apologizing for her and trying to play it cool.

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At one point, Reagan just looks at her husband Chris, and asks him, “Why can’t you just have my back?” It is a really great episode, and
any parent who has travelled with small children will find it hilariously accurate and entertaining.

So, the other morning I woke up and went about my normal morning routine: make coffee, get breakfast going, pack a lunch, attempt to
keep my daughter from getting into everything at the same time. My husband had just come out of our bedroom, dressed quite
handsomely for work, and my daughter was waving around the Swiffer sweeper like a dangerous baton.

As I’m busy trying to get his lunch together, behind me I hear a frustrated snap at my daughter and instantly, without much hesitation,
mama bear rises up in me. ”Don’t yell at her. What did she do?” I put my husband on the defensive, my daughter is upset.
She had smacked his clean pants with the dirty sweeper.
The morning ends with this statement, “Why can’t you just let me be a parent, too?”

Ouch. As the hubs left for work, without our usual loving good-bye, I felt the sting of truth. I was instantly reminded of
the episode I had just watched. Why couldn’t I have just had my husband’s back?

My husband is an awesome father, one who loves his daughter so incredibly much. And it is clear in everything he does that this
is the case. I have no reason to deny him my support when he does what he is supposed to do as a parent: discipline, correct, etc.
If I want to him to flourish in his role as a father, I have to give him my backing and support.

My encouragement to you today is: to stand by each other; have each other’s backs. As parents, we have such a difficult job, one
that has its own unique challenges for both mothers and fathers.
We need each other to make it work well. It doesn’t stop at parenting either. It is important in maintaining a strong marriage as well.

When you don’t feel supported in something that is important to you, especially by the person who is closest to you, it can be a huge discouragement.

I don’t know what I’d do if my husband didn’t support my passion to write, or my desire to lose weight. It is his constant support
and affirmation that spurs me on and gives me that extra “push” to not give up when things are tough.

As I reflect on that morning, I realize that I need to show my husband that I do have his back, and that I support him as a father.
Lesson learned.

How do you show your spouse that you have their back?

In what ways does your spouse show you?

Courtney is a wife, mother and writer. She loves to encourage others in marriage and motherhood. To connect more with her,
visit her blog: Baxtron{Life}.

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Weekend Reflections- The Marriage Commitment

Dominique — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 12:12:43 +0000

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Join us this week for Weekend Reflections. I would really like to hear your view on this weekend’s topic. Do add your link to our Linky and leave me a comment for extra linky love. You can grab out button from the sidebar.

Marriage Commitment

I choose you to be my husband/wife.

I choose to live together with you

within the covenant of marriage.

I will love you, comfort you, and honor you

in sickness and in health, in good time, and in bad times.

I will always show reverence to you,

Respecting your individuality and freedom to grow.

I will join together with you to be of service to the world.

I choose you for who you are and who you may become;

To assist you in your tasks;

To be sensitive to your needs;

To give of myself to the fullest development of your life;

To be challenged by you

to the fullest development of my own life;

To trust you in all ways and to be faithful to you in all things.

May God, our eternal Father, help us to decide

to love each other always, so that His joy and peace
may stay with us and always be in our home.

I pledge my trust, my love , and my faithfulness.

May we always show the love of God in our lives,

So that those who are hurting and in need
will find us to be their gentle,
generous, and compassionate friends.

Amen

This weekend I would like to share with all my readers the Marriage Commitment which is found on one of the pages in our Retrouvaille workbook. We have finally completed the whole course and are now equipped with all the tools that we need to make our marriage a more wonderful and meaningful one.

How are you working on your own marriage?

Friday Linky Love- All about Marriage

Dominique — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 07:08:03 +0000

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These few weeks I have been given a few “red letter bombs” ( wedding invitation cards).

A few of my friends and colleagues will be having their wedding celebrations in December.

It really brings back warm memories seeing the wedding studio photos which they have taken and brought to work to share.

This week I have been reading up on marriage.
Here are some interesting tidbits that I have seen around the net this week.

Weekend Edition-Rejuvinating your family

Dominique — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 00:19:32 +0000

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This month has been a very taxing one . From the added procedures in school due to H1N1 to the kids and everyone in the family falling ill one after another.

It has been exhausting physically and mentally for the kids and adults.

Here is this week’s roundup of interesting posts I found on the blogsphere.

40 Things to teach my kids before they leave home.- My SuperchargedLife
Why the lowest price is for losers- David Ning
11 Free Family Bonding ideas to do in less then 30 minutes- Homemaker Barbi
15 Ideas to Improve Love and marriage during tough economic times- Simple Marriage

Do you have any recommended reads for this weekend? Leave them in the linky below