Birthday Thoughts

Last week I turned 39. One year older and certainly very much wiser. It has been a turbulent 2017 with many high and low moments.  I had to learn and unlearn many different lessons and it has certainly been empowering.   It was a quiet  no cake affair this year as spend my special day with my love ones.  Spending time and communicating with them are more important then spending on parties and unhealthy foods.

Since last year I have started to put myself first.  I’ve  been focusing more on what I need and being more assertive.  I’m no longer bending over back for others who disregard my needs.  I’ve taken back control and removed bad relationships.  I’ve a clearer picture of what works and what doesn’t for me. You can say I know exactly where I want to be and how to achieve it.

Doggie Boy and Me
Doggie Boy and Me

The kids are growing up fast and I’m constantly challenging myself to improve myself by getting in touch with the various new educational software and techniques that are in the market and tailor them to their learning abilities.

Each of them have different learning styles and  I had to rely on many external resources to enhancing their learning experiences and make their academic learning journey easier.  You can say it was a hit and miss finding out what worked best for each child.  Besides focusing on their academics I’ve continued with working on their holistic development and teaching them different techniques of dealing with the array of emotions that they have been experiencing.

The main stream education system focuses too much on academics and paper chase and grossly neglects the emotional well being and spiritual growth of a child. This I feel is extremely important and something that I really have to emphasize on with my kids.  I’m seeing more and more emotionally weak kids which are the product of neglect and indifference by parents who seem more interested in chasing the almighty dollar and personal interests then giving the proper guidance to their kids.

There has been a increase in child suicides, drugs and alcohol abuse.  These are evidence of emotional immaturity and also lack of guidance that result in tragedy for those kids who ended up wasted or dead as a result of negligence. I seriously do not wish for my kids to end up as one of these type of statistics and will do everything in my capability  as a single parent to ensure that they grow up balanced.

Tiger girl and me
Tiger girl and me

It’s not all serious and studying without having fun in my household. The kids and I have been going out quite a lot  to play and this has kept everyone relatively stress free.  We have been indulging in more sports  and go swimming weekly now.  I’m still keeping up with my 1-to-1 bonding time with each kid so they get their special time with me.  We too get up to many quirky and fun stuff like playing with the different apps that they have online nowadays.

I’m also cooking much more this year and in more variety as I’m trying out  more healthy dishes and increasing my stable cooks for the weekly menu.  I still introducing more new foods and adjusting their taste and ingredients. I’ve cut off cow’s milk and replaced it with oat milk and am gradually phasing out all processed/ can foods with healthy options. We are also eating less rice and bread and option for more vegetables and fruits instead.  I’ll be studying in detail Keto style of eating and going through the new Keto cookbook that I’ve purchased.

How has it been since your last birthday?

 

 

 

 

3 thoughts on “Birthday Thoughts”

  1. I don’t if this is a season we are all experiencing. I, and lately, I’ve seen other moms have the same sentiments as you do. I want to do everything at least in a healthy way. I also feel sad about the things happening in our country and I just keep on asking “where are the parents?” where are those who should be guiding …but then again, people have their reasons. The best we can do is to make the most of what we have, our children. =)

  2. I like that idea of spending quality time with each kid. I’ve got so many boys that I would like to spend some time with each of them.. they are growing up real fast and often, their peers and the people around them influence them more than I do.

    I also like the idea of introducing healthy options. We’ve been doing it for quite some time already, even baking our own cake and bread.

  3. Belated happy birthday! My birthday was last February. I find myself having the same thoughts as you in terms of how to raise our kids. I guess these realizations come with age and experience. I learn new things as a mom, wife and woman every year. Good luck with all your plans. I hope they all work out.

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